Cathy Cress

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My Dad’s Move To My House with The Wonder of VA GRECC

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I moved my own Dad so let me tell you our story on Veterans Day.

It is key to his move. My father was a World War II navigator shot down in Poland and transferred to Stalag-VII-A Moosburg Bavaria.  He returned home a broken man with PTSD, never took a bus, drove, or flew on a plane again. His disability, like so many vets was untreated for 50 years. He worked as an advertising agent ala Mad Men and drank like Don Draper. Our family crumbled into a dysfunctional maelstrom, as most families do.

VA GRECC PROGRAM SAVES THE DAY

Finally, after my mother died, I talked him into going to the VA where he did get treatment through the GRECC program. My brother who lived with him died, my Dad found his body and the house caught fire, I then moved my Dad out to a board and care HVC-85th_20130525-233904_1.jpgand had the house rebuilt. However, it was Edgar Alan Poe’s House of Usher. The perfect storm of 91 flooded the whole house again just like Hurricane Sandy. We lived on the bay off the Jersey Coast, since devastated by the rising ocean.

On Christmas Eve I got him an emergency flight to California with only his clothes and he moved in with us for 20 years, until his death. Was it a good move-?

Yes, it was a great move.

We compensated by moving into our attic, which, had been renovated with a bedroom, bath office, etc. So my Dad had privacy, although he was on the floor with his 8th-grade granddaughter now 40. They both had their own bathrooms. He became the center of the family when he had been a distant removed father. His great-grandchildren my brother’s son Chris my grandchildren  Julia and Joseph and my children Jill and Kali adored him and he loved them. He was “ Pop”.

The VA GRECC program was superb.

I got him enrolled in the VA GRECC program in Menlo Park near us, and they took care of his heath for 20 years with the unmatched expertise that the VA is capable of bringing. I cannot say enough about what a great service GRECC rendered him. After 50 years of no help, they showered him with great preventative care, top-notch geriatricians, transportation, and financial support, and at the end home care until he died.

So on Veterans Dad, I would like to give you my own moving store and remind you of the horrible struggle veterans go through, especially PTSD Vets like my Dad,  salted by the Dec-Xmas-all-of-us-.jpganguish visited on their families. But there is a great part of the VA and its GRECC. So happy Memorial Day Dad and so glad you moved in with us, died among his family, and was so well served by the VA GRECC PROGRAM

My Dad’s Move To My House with The Wonder of VA GRECC

HV-Cress.jpg

 

I moved my own Dad so let me tell you our story on Veterans Day.

It is key to his move. My Dad was a World War II navigator shot down in Poland and transferred to Stalag-VII-A Moosburg Bavaria.  He returned home a broken man with PTSD, never took a bus, drove, or flew on a plane again. His disability, like so many vets, was untreated for 50 years. He worked as an advertising agent ala Mad Men and drank like Don Draper. Our family crumbled into a dysfunctional maelstrom, as most families do.

Finally, after my mother died, I talked him into going to the VA where he did get treatment through the GRECC program.

My brother who lived with him died, my Dad found his body and the house caught fire, I then moved my Dad out to a board and care and had the house rebuilt. However, it was Edgar Alan Poe’s House of Usher The perfect storm of 89 flooded the whole house again just like Hurricane Sandy. We lived on the bay off the Jersey Coast, since devastated by the rising ocean.

On Christmas Eve I got him an emergency flight to California with only his clothes and he moved in with us for 20 years, until his death.

 

Was it a good move-?

Yes, it was a great move.

We compensated by moving into our attic, which, had been renovated with a bedroom, bath office, etc. So my Dad had privacy, although he was on the floor with his 8th-grade granddaughter. They both had their own bathrooms. He became the center of the family when he had been a distant removed father. The great-grandchildren and my children adored him and he loved them. He was “ Pop”.

The VA GRECC program was superb.

I got my father enrolled and they took care of his heath for 20 years with the unmatched expertise that the VA is capable of bringing. I cannot say enough about what a great service GRECC rendered him. After 50 years of no help, they showered him with great HVC-85th_20130525-233904_1.jpgpreventative care, top-notch geriatricians, transportation, and financial support, and at the end home care until he died.

So on Veterans Day, I would like to give you my own moving store and remind you of the horrible struggle veterans go through salted by the anguish visited on their families. But there is a great part of the VA and its GRECC. So happy Veterans Day Dad and so glad you moved in with us.

My Dad & Veterans Day , Prison Camp,PTSD, VA GRECC Program

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I moved my own Dad so let me tell you our story on Veterans Day.

It is key to his move. He was a World War II navigator shot down in Poland and transferred to

.  He returned home a broken man with PTSD, never took a bus, drove, or flew on a plane again. His disability, like so many vets, was untreated for 50 years. He worked as an advertising agent ala Mad Men and drank like Don Draper. Our family crumbled into a dysfunctional maelstrom, as most families do.

VA GRECC SAVED THE DAY

Finally, after my mother died, I talked him into going to the VA where he did get treatment through the GRECC program. My brother who lived with him died, my Dad found his body and the house caught fire, I then moved my Dad out to a board and care and had the house rebuilt. However, it was Edgar Alan Poe’s House of Usher The perfect storm of 89 flooded the whole house again just like Hurricane Sandy. We lived on the bay off the Jersey Coast, since devastated by the rising ocean.

On Christmas Eve I got him an emergency flight to California with only his clothes and he moved in with us for 20 years, until his death. Was it a good move-?

Yes, it was a great move.

My Dad had privacy, although he was on the floor with his 8th-grade granddaughter who dearly loved him- now 40. They both had their own bathrooms. He became the center of the family when he had been a distant removed father. The great-grandchildren Julia & Joseph, my brother’s son Chris and my children Jill and Kali adored him and he loved them. He was “ Pop”.

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So on Veterans Day, I would like to give you my own fraught story and remind you of the horrible struggle veterans go through salted by the anguish visited on their families. But there is a great part of the VA and its GRECC. So happy Veterans Day Dad and so glad you moved in with us and had the GRECC program to support us all.

How VA Families of PTSD Shatter

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The effects of War on a PTSD family includes avoidance. It was verboten in our family to talk about my Dad’s time in a prison camp. We joined him in denial thus never learned his pain .

Anger and guilty- my brother and I were angry at his drunken rants at our Mom, our never having the support we needed in school and the loving family we lost and were never sure why. We both felt guilty about our parents and our Dad’s PTSD but never understood either that or even why- we just felt the pain.

Depression-Stevie and I were were depressed although we had no idea we were. We just knew we were failing in school and failing to be a normal family like Donna Reed’s.

The VA Vets of WWII experienced this but it spilled out in the open with Viet Nam Vets and now splattered all over the media with Iraq and Afghanistan veteran vet family  misery, suicide and lack of care.

As a geriatric care manager, read PTSD and The Family  and get help for Korean, Viet Nam, WWII or any Vet family that needs care.

Tools to Work with the PTSD WW II Family

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The PDSD WWII family is a dysfunctional Family. What you need to know first of all are the 10 signs of a dysfunctional aging family   . Then add a history of PTSD in World War II as the 11th sign.

 

What are the CORE skills you need to work with a dysfunctional aging family ?Add to the core skills, like containment and objectivity, knowing the tools to help a PTSD family.

 

Next as I said in the last blog to use the whole family approach .You balance the needs of the senior and each family member and many times meets all their needs to get the older person care.

Lastly you need to have tools to work with PTSD and First Lady Michele Obama and NASW have just created a free course to help professional learn how to use this tool box  

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