Needy Adult Children and Narcissism signs of the Aging Dysfunctional Family-

January 20, 2021

7th Sign of the dysfunctional Family -Narcissism

– One or more adult siblings has an “it’s all about me” attitude. It could be the aging parent or a midlife sibling. With aging parents, all siblings may have resented this self-absorption all their lives and have a love/hate relationship with older Moms or dads. With siblings, the other brothers and sister resent this, especially with parent care. The self-absorbed sibling either does not participate in solving sibling or aging family troubles but just makes them worse.

Devalued Child Entitled but Servile Adult.

As a kid, the adult child of a narcissist parent was devalued in the parent’s eyes so that the now aging parent can feel superior and powerful in the world. These children mature into adults who are emotionally impoverished, inflexible, and needy.

As a geriatric care manager, the adult child presents as entitled. As clients, these adult children fear that unless they make inflexible demands, they will receive nothing. “ Get my mother into a concierge wing of a hospital by tomorrow”

An adult child of a narcissistic aging parent will present as nasty, aggressive, and devaluing of the service provider. Or they could be essentially insatiable and easily injured by the helping professional. The adult children of narcissistic entitled families are also often angry and frustrated at having to give care to a parent or parents whom they experienced as ungiving, demanding, intrusive, overpowering, and needy. They are members of an ultra dysfunctional aging family.

The eighth sign of dysfunctional aging family- needy adult children

Baby boomers must evolve beyond the needy child he or she has been, for that fiscal, emotional, and social support, to the adult who supports his parent. Adult Children of aging parents in the 21st century not only confront the delay of their own needs when their parent’s aging and reliance call them but confront their own future and very much more immediate loss of the central figure in their lives, their own parents.

Some don’t- especially in the dysfunctional family.

These adults feel starved for parental affection they never received and often seek affection from professionals and other people in their lives to compensate for the care they didn’t receive as children.

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Emergency Go Binder -Family Caregivers Need One in Pandemic

August 13, 2020

In An Emergency, I Panicked

I live in Santa Cruz County, Ca. , where the disaster of COVID stalks us but we had a double disaster with one of the 30 fires begun by lightning strikes all over California. Our fire set the Santa Cruz mountains, with ancient 3000-year-old redwoods, ablaze, and caused 70,000 evacuations ,as the firefighters did not have enough fire personnel to fight the fire. There were so many fires statewide that all firefighters in the state were not enough to fight the blazes. In addition to the horror, the fast-spreading fire, our three assigned planes to drop water on the inferno, could not fly as smoke and fog prevented it. They went to other California fires.

I Had No Grab and GO, Binder

When all this was announced by emergency alerts we were told to prepare to evacuate too. In spite of just teaching how to put together a go binder for COVID- I had no go binder myself. I had no list of what I would take in an emergency from a 5 bedroom house with multiple family heirlooms, original art by children, grandchildren, and now famous friends, I had never scanned the multiple photographs of our family in frames to GOOGLE PHOTOS all over the house and those critical important documents like our trust, birth certificates, passports, insurance info in filing to add a go binder. I never made a GO Binder. I am doing it now when the fire is 30% contained.

Prepare for Double Disasters Now

In emergency situations, people sometimes do not think rationally like me. We never know how we are going to react in an emergency until it actually happens. In order to prepare for any situation, hurricanes & COVID, Fires &COVID- creating a grab-and-go binder should be an important part of your shelter in place plan for aging friends or relatives.

With COVID,the older person who is sheltering in place, as safe as the family and elder have been, can still contract COVID and be rushed to the hospital in an emergency. But on top of COVID other emergencies like storms wildfires, floods happen on the top of the pandemic. Think of this summer where hurricanes have already spun up the east coast, making it a double cataclysm of elders’ and family caregivers’ lives.

What to put in Go- Binder

You want and binder with all the emergency contacts, documents like advanced directives, DNR power of attorney and family contacts, You the family cannot physically go into the hospital or evacuate but this Go binder can take your place. With important information about your family member when they are admitted without you by their side. Your go- binder should contain your family members’ most important information and documents. This will include.

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Emergency Contact List
Advanced Directives
Critical medical, insurance, social security, Trust/will docs
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How an Art Museum is Combating Senior Loneliness in California?

March 22, 2019

Santa Cruz County, California is combating senior loneliness and isolation, through community organization and art. Following a similar exhibition on foster children MAH (Museum of Art and History), launched the Loneliness exhibition this year. MAH’s former director Nina Simon, who is internationally known, conceived the idea of community organization through museums ( Museum of Art and History) at MAH and is moving that brilliant concept globally.

Over the course of seven months, a group of Santa Cruz seniors, advocates, and artists , cascaded their ideas, art, hopes, and stories on senior loneliness and isolation in the Santa Cruz community together to create this inspiring exhibition. They created personal artwork about loneliness, brainstormed solutions to build connection and offered their words of wisdom for future generations.

Alongside incredible artworks, on loneliness by local seniors, this exhibit created 45 action cards to offer solutions to this growing problem. Examples are Drive a senior to the grocery store. Card ideas also included “Translate written materials into Spanish for a monolingual elder” or “Donate an iPod for entertainment “. If the visitor to the exhibit has a special skill, they are asked to volunteer to help a senior experience that -like get a manicure. Exhibit visitors take home the action card/s that inspires them the most and to help impact change in seniors experiencing social isolation in Santa Cruz County.

The exhibition will travel and be replicated in four other California counties, to give more lonely California seniors a chance to organize and create services for loneliness in other areas, through other museums that use art to create community.

Loneliness and isolation in older adults But what has been found is building social connections through the community as MAH has done is what combats this isolation in seniors, in our society. Loneliness puts seniors at risk for depression, cardiovascular failure, insomnia. It can, according to NY Times aging columnist Jane Brody raise levels of stress hormones and inflammation, which in turn can increase the risk of heart disease, arthritis, Type 2 diabetes, dementia, faster and result in cognitive decline and even suicide attempts. It also is a factor in unnecessary placement in nursing homes

Increasing the quality of life is one major answer to loneliness. The primary way to bring more joy into a senior’s life is regaining a foothold in town or village, something that this type of community art exhibit and geriatric care managers both have made a major platform in their work. Nina Herndon a pioneer in quality of life in geriatric care management’s chapter in Handbook of Geriatric Care management where she outlines how care managers can deliver this service to conquer loneliness in seniors

Do You Have a Marketing Message That Works for Concierge Seniors Who Need Geriatric Care Management?

August 9, 2018

Concierge Seniors are the segment of the market ALCA and GCM practitioners must reach. Why because they are the only clients who can afford care management long term because it clost 4-5 thousane a month and Medicare does not cover it.

Marketing your existing or new Aging Life or GCM business is vital to growth, but where you spend your marketing dollars? What marketing tactics make the most sense for you? Where will you reach your concierge client base best?

So How Do you reach these top 10% seniors?

Aging life or geriatric care manager must offer different benefits hyper-attention to seamless care to attract athese top 10% concierge clients who can afford your services long term.

This is where your marketing strategy comes into play. Before the business can start generating large revenue, a concierge marketing strategy and sales techniques must be in place.

Your benefits to this democraphic must be communicated to the concierge customer

The benefit’s include

You will deliver exclutive professional solutions to the grueling aging care decisions families and clients must make so they will get the gold standard care they deserve

Your your 5-star service offers expert professional answers for the tough choices aging family members must make about elder housing, medical care, personal care, quality of life, finances, end of life and the myriad mind-boggling decisions they face.

Your concierge marketing message must give this information to the client and the whole aging family in the support system and can transform the family and ensure you gain clients.

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Do You Partner With Wealth Managers To Reach Care Management Concierge Clients?

July 30, 2018

Wealth management banks are increasingly using geriatric care managers to serve their clients.

Bank of America’s U.S. Trust and Merrill Lynch, Wells Fargo Private Bank, Morgan Stanley, and Northern Trust and some of these trust departments turned wealth managers that use or partner with care managers. They serve Concierge clients with assets over and above a million dollars and want to work with geriatric care managers to lighten their own load. A care manager can handle the health care and psychosocial while their handle their area of expertise, financial management of a client’s assets.

When you market to wealth managers, you have to show them the benefits of using a geriatric care manager.

Show them the BENEFIT of your GCM Service to the wealth manager including you as a geriatric care manager will:

Do In-depth assessment initial of aging clients health and psychosocial status
Assess the client’s level of competency to make financial decisions.
Collaborate to create a long-term care plan for clients who wish to stay at home and TO needs to plan accordingly for the cost of care.
Collaborate to create a long-term care plan for clients who wish to move or need to move to a higher level of care
access community resources for their parent’s care.
Monitor the status of an older client and report back to the family and financial
Advise when a higher level of care is needed
Monitor weekly so problems not become a crisis and are solved preventatively
Organize community resources for clients so have the highest quality of healthcare and quality of life
Make clients feel engaged with a health and social services concierge who will help the trust offer guide them to the BEST care.

Make sure the wealth manager knows a professional geriatric care manager is:
visiting/monitoring
Advocating for the clients
sending a monthly report on client’s health/social situation
Emailing reports and updates on client
delivering prevention rather than crisis management
Managing clients with mental health problems
Managing adult siblings who disrupt older clients care through sibling fights
Managing dysfunctional families
Facilitating family meetings to come to an agreement about care for an elder with dysfunctional families

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