What Happens When Mom High Priestess of the Holidays Falls off her Throne?

December 20, 2020

Holidays have traditionally been women’s job.

Mothers are the high priestess of the ritual- like Queen Elizabeth without servants. The UK estimated the there are 25 to do’s women have on the holiday. It takes years to accumulate objects ritual dishes and religious objects used. It takes the left side of your brain executive skills, plans and organize, remember details, does things based on your experience.

Holidays are often done on autopilot

Women–recalling all the jobs that must be done year after year. It also takes IADLs- (Instrumental Activities of Daily Living) meal planning, shopping, plus ambulation. Then add depression – widowhood, loss and you have the challenges of aging in managing this entire titanic ritual. Many times the aging Mom can no longer balance all these plates and the holidays shatter with the crashing dishes.

At some point when Mom cannot do all the maybe 75 subsets of holiday preparation

Then the torch has to be passed and an adult child (usually an adult daughter must take over. This is like secession, – Princess Elizabeth taking over for her Dad, King George, (who hated it and had a lifelong stutter) made famous in The King’s Speech who was handed the throne by his brother Edward who quit being king.

Mom needs to Pass the Torch- Baby Boomers Kids Shocked

Baby boomer- adult children and the aging parents are unprepared by their own culture for this new developmental phase of passing the torch. They do not expect it, like they did the nights of the crying newborn or the rebellious teen, and are thrown off balance by the sometimes sudden and usually unexpected loss of their anchoring aging parents, like when they find Elderly Mom is unable to pull off running the holidays Indeed, what must happen in this new developmental phase is that the adult child must evolve beyond the needy child, (I will still have Mom pull of the holiday as she always did) he or she has been, depending on his or her parents for that fiscal, emotional, social support and ritual organizing parents, like managing of officiating over the Christmas or Hanukkah celebration.

Geriatric Care Manager to the Rescue

In the normal healthy family system this filial crisis of Holiday rituals can be overcome and the adult children with the brief help of an aging life or geriatric care manager so they can let go of their former dependent roles and confront their parent’s loss by organizing and providing care. They can take over Christmas and Hanukkah by stepping in and grabbing that torch.

Dysfunctional Family Do Not Want to Take Over for Mom

In the dysfunctional aging family, this filial crisis is incredibly hard to trounce from both the parents and the adult child’s point of view. The really need a geriatric care manager’s services

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Wonder Woman Saves Proactive , Long Distance Aging Family on the Holidays

December 1, 2020

Geriatric care managers are wonder woman for long-distance care providers

More than a million people have died of COVID in the past 7 days , according to the CDC.

This is an important message for care managers to use before the upcoming holidays. Getting on a plane to travel is dangerous for the long-distance care provider in the

highest national spread of COVID. Plus they might carry the deadly infection to their aging parents, the most vulnerable group to die of COVID. This gives these distant caring family members every reason not to see their parents- but what will they then do to keep them safe- Hire a Geriatric Care Manager.

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If You live Long Distance from an aging parent during the COVID spread, it’s a preventative and prudent idea to have a geriatric care manager in the town where your older relative resides. If your parents are sheltering in place, they can make sure they are safe and use tools to prevent the loneliness and isolation that can set in over the holidays. If there is a crisis, like a COVID diagnosis,

they are right there to professionally manage it. In an urgent situation, a care manager can go to the hospital or emergency room. This is saner, safer, and more cost-effective than you getting on last-minute, expensive flights without any social distancing protection for you or your aging parents when you see them. Geriatric Care Managers are good insurance.”

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You can make marketing visits to 3rd parties through HIPAA-compliant video

conferencing services like elder law attornies or wealth managers. You can pitch “Before any crisis, the GCM do an initial assessment and visit your long-distance older client on a regular basis. This is preventative. That way a professional is there for your client 1-1, when you need them and has a health care background to solve the problem.”

Here is a better line for long-distance adult children:

“Think of care managers the way you do one of those blow-up beds. You can pump them

up when you need them in a crisis—perhaps avoid that crisis, and you yourself can sleep more soundly and with more peace of mind in your own bed.

Some of the things a geriatric care manager can do for long-distance care providers are:

1. Save your worry, fear of COVID, and money by helping keep your parent safe from COVID and out of the hospital and you off dangerous emergency long-distance flights.

2.Help your parents avoid loneliness and isolation by arranging virtual quality of life activities to keep them socially engaged while sheltering in place.

4.Facilitate a family discussion of needs, resources, and division of labor among friends family

5. Recommend ways to proactively prepare and plan for a parent’s possible health care crisis like COVID.

6. Work on family cooperation to formulate a realistic parent-care plan.

7.Assess the strengths and weaknesses of all of the potential caregivers if needed

7. Help adult siblings resolve conflicts, if any, about care decisions.

8. Help the long-distance care provider deal with guilt and frustration that may result from their inability to provide more of the day-to-day care.

9. Locate aging resources in your elder parents’ area quickly and without you having to do it.

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10 marketing messages for Adult Kids Who Call 911 GCM After Holidays

December 29, 2019

“Geriatric care managers are wonder woman for long-distance care providers? “

This is an important marketing message for care managers to use for the call you will get from long-distance family members who just spent the holidays with aging parents and freaked out at the decline.

So be prepared with terrific marketing copy and messaging when they call you.

Your copy in an ad or website should include-

“It’s a preventative and prudent idea to have a geriatric care manager in the town where your older relative resides. If there is a crisis, it is cheaper to have a GCM solve it. In an urgent situation, a care manager can go to the hospital or emergency room. This is saner and more cost-effective than you getting on last-minute, expensive flights. You can still go but they can immediately be there to deal with the crisis. They are good insurance.

Even when making marketing visits to 3rd parties like elder law attornies or wealth managers, you can pitch “Before any crisis, the GCM do an initial assessment and visit your long-distance older relative periodically (once a month, once every two months).This is preventative. That way they are there for you when you need them and have all the information to solve the problem.”

Here is a better marketing message for long-distance adult children:

“Think of care managers the way you do one of those “blow-up beds.” You can pump them up when you need them in a crisis—actually avoid that crisis, and you yourself can sleep more soundly and with more peace of mind in your own bed.

Some of the things a geriatric care manager can do for long-distance care providers are:

1. Save you money by helping keep your parent out of the hospital and you off emergency long-distance flights.

2.Facilitate a family discussion of needs, resources, and division of labor among friends family

3. Recommend ways to proactively prepare and plan for a parent’s possible health care crisis.

4. Work on family cooperation to formulate a realistic parent-care plan.

5.Assess the strengths and weaknesses of all of the potential caregivers

6. Help adult siblings resolve conflicts about care decisions.

7. Help siblings act together in the best interest of the parent

8.Decrease the tension between hometown and long distance siblings

9. Help the long-distance care provider deal with guilt and frustration that may result from their inability to provide more of the day-to-day care.

10. Locate aging resources in your elder parents’ area quickly and without you having to do it.

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911- My Aging Parents Looked Bad on Holidays

October 22, 2018

“Geriatric care managers are wonder woman for long-distance care providers? ” This is an important message for care managers to use before the upcoming holidays.
Your copy in an ad or website should include-

Even when making marketing visits to 3rd parties like elder law attornies or wealth managers, you can pitch “Before any crisis, the GCM do an initial assessment and visit your long distance older relative periodically (once a month, once every two months).This is preventative. That way they are there for you when you need them and have all the information to solve the problem.”

Here is a better line for long distance adult children:

“Think of care managers the way you do one of those blow-up beds. You can pump them up when you need them in a crisis—perhaps avoid that crisis, and you yourself can sleep more soundly and with more peace of mind in your own bed.

Some of the things a geriatric care manager can do for long distance care providers are:

1. Save you money by helping keep your parent out of the hospital and you off emergency long-distance flights.

2.Facilitate a family discussion of needs, resources, and division of labor among friends family

3. Recommend ways to proactively prepare and plan for a parent’s possible health care crisis.

4. Work on family cooperation to formulate a realistic parent-care plan.

5.Assess the strengths and weaknesses of all of the potential caregivers

6. Help adult siblings resolve conflicts about care decisions.

7. Help siblings act together in the best interest of the parent

8.Decrease the tension between hometown and long distance siblings

9. Help the long-distance care provider deal with guilt and frustration that may result from their inability to provide more of the day-to-day care.

10. Locate aging resources in your elder parents area quickly and without you having to do it.

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Holidays have traditionally been women’s job.

Holidays are often done on autopilot

At some point when Mom cannot do all the maybe 75 subsets of holiday preparation

Mom needs to Pass the Torch- Baby Boomers Kids Shocked

Geriatric Care Manager to the Rescue

Dysfunctional Family Do Not Want to Take Over for Mom

Working with Aging Dysfunctional Families- January and February-Long Day’s Journey into Night-

Thursday, January 21, 2021

Find out more in the YouTube for My YouTube, Channel Geriatric Care 1

Geriatric care managers are wonder woman for long-distance care providers

More than a million people have died of COVID in the past 7 days , according to the CDC.

This is an important message for care managers to use before the upcoming holidays. Getting on a plane to travel is dangerous for the long-distance care provider in the

Add This to Your Ad Copy or Website

Use Telehealth to Market to 3rd Parties Over the Holiday

Here is a better line for long-distance adult children:

Some of the things a geriatric care manager can do for long-distance care providers are:

Learn more about gaining new long-distance care provider clients -this coming holiday season.

8 Ways to Tame the Turmoil of the Holidays & Twindemic in the Aging Family

ONLY 4 DAYS LEFT to SIGN UP

“Geriatric care managers are wonder woman for long-distance care providers? “

This is an important marketing message for care managers to use for the call you will get from long-distance family members who just spent the holidays with aging parents and freaked out at the decline.

Your copy in an ad or website should include-

Here is a better marketing message for long-distance adult children:

Contact

Connect with Cathy

Get Cathy’s “10 Critical Success Steps to a Profitable Aging Life or GCM Business”