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Best Tool for Dysfunctional Family on Holidays- Hope

December 8, 2019

Hope is the Best Tool on the Holidays

During Christmas and Hannaka family caregivers, especially in the dysfunctional family can be drinking or numbing themselves from the pain of caregiving. They will ruin the holiday celebration one way or another. Maybe they are drugging themselves with the telly or abusing prescription drugs. Depression and anxiety ( rife among caregivers) are predictors of increased alcohol use. Social isolation, which is experienced by some caregivers, is also predictive of increased alcohol use.

How do you as a geriatric care manager change the script for these aging dysfunctional families – family caregivers and older members who are supposed to care for but can’t. How does a professional GCM make the characters transform?

It’s actually simple –but loaded with skill- give them hope. You need to and use yourself to give them hope that things will change. It’s the best tool a geriatric care manager toolbox- especially on and after the dreaded holidays.

Use of Self

The use of Self is perhaps the most powerful tool for geriatric care managers. The use of Self provides families with guarded optimism. GCM’s have to offer a vision of the future that is based not only on a desire for hopeful outcomes. This has come from our own clinical knowledge and belief that change to their nasty crippled, family system is indeed possible.

By being direct, empathetic, and nonjudgmental, we become a holding bay for stressed caregivers, creating a place of safety, confidentiality, consistency, and support. Finally, GCM’s offer our clients a model of perseverance. By not giving up on the possibility of positive change and by exploring all options, the GCM enables families to feel that, regardless of the outcome, they have done all that they can to support the older adult.

Be like Judy Garland on the holiday offering hope

Have yourself a merry little Christmas.
Let your heart be light
From now on
our troubles will be out of sight

Give the” Merry Christmas – next year

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Take This Test -Can You Take A Dysfunctional Family Case Over the Holidays ?

November 2, 2019

Do You Have the Clinical Skills to Give Hope to The Dysfunctional Family Calling Desperately On the Holidays –

What does it Take?

1. Do you know the right caseload mix so you have the intense time to handle these very heavy care families?

1. Do you have 5 years of geriatric care management practice, a master’s degree to understand and work with them??
2. Do you have care managers who can work with these complex aging dysfunctional families
3. Do you have the business model to realign your caseload for many of these time-intensive cases?
4. Do you know aging family dynamics or do you have a staff member who does?
5. Can you increase your staff to do this?
6. Do You Know How to do a two call intake and complimentary consultation
7. Do You know how to make the sale to dysfunctional aging clients
8. Are you ready to be fired and have an account receivable problems that come with these cases?
9. Do you know how to answer the challenge the dysfunctional, needy demanding adult children face and the client’s needs at the same time
10. Do you know how to hold an impromptu family Dysfunctional meeting with adult children, over the hectic holiday to plan care for aging parents?
11. Can you work with narcissistic entitled older clients who are very demanding?
12. Can you emotionally handle the demeaning, blaming attitude of narcissistic old and new monied clients

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How is a Geriatric Care Manager a Care Connector With Mid Life Siblings ?

July 15, 2019

We are creeping towards to August which means often seeing our midlife siblings at more summer vacation events. At times we are estranged from midlife sibling or we are polite at a family gathering but there is no real connection.siblings

Aging life or geriatric care managers are care connectors. They cannot do everything themselves for the family , like be the best geriatrician, accountant or home health aide nor do they have the skills to do that. What they have is the skill to connect to the right resource, like a geriatrician , elder-law attorney , support group or home health aide, especially for a family caregiver.

Emotional resources can link a circle of care for the direct family caregiver. These emotional supports could and should include adult siblings .Siblings are the longest and deepest relationship in any person’s life. Reconnecting midlife or aging brother’s and sisters, through the circle of care, is a critical GCM task but to achieve this, the care manager may have to depend his clinical skills in helping siblings with forgiveness or reconnecting siblings who live long distance.

Midlife siblings have often spent the last 30 years tending to their own families .So the point of reconnection with middle aged brothers and sisters often happens when they are still working or just retiring — unexpectedly thrown into a crisis in parent care.

This is where the GCM needs to have clinical skills to can help with healing this sibling disconnection-often short circuited by an old sibling wound that helping the sister and brother work together as a circle of care . You replace the shorted fuse in the fuse box.

If the family is dysfunctional, the care manager becomes a care connector and links the right resources that might include an mediator who specializes in aging families or a Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in Aging (hard to find)

If you are a geriatric care manager or therapist,you can find chapters on mediation, working with the nearly normal family and dysfunctional aging family, siblings, family meetings and care connection. Handbook of Geriatric Care Managers 4th edition

It may be 4 months away till Thanksgiving but a an aging parent crisis could happen tomorrow. Reach Out now.

Should You Take a Dysfunctional Family Care Management Case Over the Holidays ?

December 5, 2018

Do You Have Clinical &GCM Business Skills to Give Hope to a Concierge Dysfunctional Family Desperately Calling Over the Holidays –

What does it Take?

Do you know the right caseload mix so you have the intense time to handle these dysfunctional very heavy care families?

Do you have 5 years of geriatric care management practice to understand and work with dysfunctional families ???

Do you have the business model to realign your caseload for both light & Heavy cases?

Can you increase your staff to do it?

Do you know aging family dynamics or do you have a staff member who does?

Do you have care managers who can work with complex aging dysfunctional families?

Do You Know How to do a two call intake and complimentary consultation?

Do You know how to make the sale to concierge clients?

Are you ready to be fired and have an account receivable problems that come with these dysfunctional family cases?

Do you know how to answer the challenge the adult children face and the client’s needs at the same time?

Do you know how to hold an impromptu family meeting with visiting hard to handle, adult children of dysfunctional families, over the hectic holiday to plan care for aging parents?

Do you understand the executive function loss that older woman experience when trying to plan a holiday ritual dinner that fails, upsetting their adult children?

Can you work with narcissistic entitled older clients who are very demanding?

Can you take the demeaning, blaming attitude of narcissistic old and new monied clients?

Do you know how to avoid the VIP Syndrome with Concierge Rich and Famous clients?

If you lack some of these skills consider my new Geriatric Care Managment On-Line Class that includes my Geriatric Care management Operations Manual to learn them and much more.

How is a Geriatric Care Manager a Care Connector With Mid Life Siblings ?

February 1, 2017

Aging life or geriatric care managers are care connectors. They cannot do everything themselves for the family nor do they have the skills to do that. What they have is the skill to connect to the right resource, especially for a family caregiver.

In my text book Handbook of Geriatric Care Managers 4th edition you can find chapters on mediation, working with the nearly normal family and dysfunctional aging family, siblings, family meetings and care connection.

How is a Geriatric Care Manager a Care Connector With Mid Life Siblings ?

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Hope is the Best Tool on the Holidays

Use of Self

Be like Judy Garland on the holiday offering hope

SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL GERIATRIC CARE 1

Do You Have the Clinical Skills to Give Hope to The Dysfunctional Family Calling Desperately On the Holidays –

What does it Take?

Find out more in the YouTube for My YouTube, Channel Geriatric Care 1

Contact

Connect with Cathy

Get Cathy’s “10 Critical Success Steps to a Profitable Aging Life or GCM Business”