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8 Ways to Help Organize Long Distance Care Provider Sibling Support Before Holidays

October 27, 2018

 

It takes 1 Mom to Handle 10 children and 10 children can’t manage one Mom

 

 HOW YOU GET OTHER SIBLINGS INVOLVED

Before the coming Thanksgiving celebration, what are some suggestions you can make to the main care provider to get help FROM ADULT SIBLINGS, when all family members have gathered?

Here are some ideas for you as the care manager, can suggest to clients to organize siblings to help share care.            

1. KEEP THEM UP ON THINGS?

                       

ways to keep siblings informed

                                    telephone calls or conference calls with  siblings 

                                    monthly e-newsletters to siblings Constant Contact –

                                    Skype with parents

                                    Facebook Page Parents                                

                                  Make an Amazon Wish list and share it for gifts for parents

                                  Family Meetings  to organize the feast or discuss parent issues 

           

           

2.LISTEN TO WHAT THEY HAVE TO Say

                              be an active listener 

 

3.MAKE SURE AGING PARENTS UNDERSTAND THAT YOU NEED YOUR SIBLINGS HELP

                       

4. IF YOU WANT SIBLINGS TO HELP-TELL THEM SO

                           use open communication   

5. BE SURE TO GIVE SIBLINGS POSITIVE FEEDBACK FOR THEIR EFFORTS

                   

  • Write thank you notes, call, text, e-mail

                       

 

6.SPEAK UP RIGHT AWAY IF THERE ARE PROBLEMS

                        diffuse problems early on

                       

7. INSTEAD OF MAKING ACCUSATIONS- SHARE YOUR   FEELINGS

 

 

8.DIVIDE UP THE DUTIES 

                        example- one sibling handles parents’ finances, bills, for Thanksgiving, everyone                              brings a dish and out of town siblings bring wine, drinks bread etc.

                       one person does a newsletter about the client 

                       use calendar LOTS of HELPING HANDS

This also may be an article for your website or newsletter for November.                       

Get more tips on working with Aging families during the busiest care management season- the coming holidays

Join me in my new Webinar

5 Ways to Tame the Turbulence of Holiday Meltdown in Aging Families   

During the busiest season for care management referrals-

 

You Will Learn:

  • How to give hope to frantic children who call, after seeing their aging parent struggling with the rituals
  • How to sell services to desperate adult child callers
  • How to use GCM tools to contain Holiday chaos
  • How to use financial forecasting to prepare for growth during the holidays
  • How to work with both dysfunctional and long-distance families who call during the holidays
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8 Ways to Help Organize Long Distance Care Provider Sibling Support

December 28, 2016

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It takes 1 Mom to Handle 10 children and 10 children can’t manage one Mom

 

 HOW YOU GET OTHER SIBLINGS INVOLVED

Before the coming Thanksgiving celebration, what are some suggestions you can make to a main care provider to get help FROM ADULT SIBLINGS , when all family members  has gathered.

Here are some ideas for you as the care manager to organize siblings to help share care.            

1.KEEP THEM UP ON THINGS?

                       

ways to keep siblings informed

                                    telephone calls or conference calls with  siblings 

                                    monthly e- newsletters to siblings Constant Contact –

                                    Skype with parents

                                    Facebook Page Parents                                

                                  Amazon wish list for gifts for parents

                                  Family Meetings  to organize the feast or discuss parent issues 

           

           

2.LISTEN TO WHAT THEY HAVE TO Say

                              be an active listener 

 

3.MAKE SURE AGING PARENTS UNDERSTAND THAT YOU NEED YOUR SIBLINGS HELP

                       

4.IF YOU WANT SIBLINGS TO HELP-TELL THEM SO

                           use open communication   

5. BE SURE TO GIVE SIBLINGS POSITIVE FEEDBACK FOR THEIR EFFORTS

                   

  • Write thank you notes, call, text, e-mail

                       

 

6.SPEAK UP RIGHT AWAY IF THERE ARE PROBLEMS

                        diffuse problems early on

                       

7. INSTEAD OF MAKING ACCUSATIONS- SHARE YOUR   FEELINGS

 

 

8.DIVIDE UP THE DUTIES 

                        example- one sibling handles parents’ finances, bills

                       one person does newsletter

                       use calendar Lots of Helping Hands  

This also may be an article for your website or newsletter for November.                       

Get more tips on working with Aging families during the busiest care management season- the coming holidays

Join me in my new Webinar

5 Ways to Tame the Turbulence of Holiday Meltdown in Aging Families   

During the busiest season for care management referrals-

 

You Will Learn:

  • How to give hope to frantic children who call, after seeing their aging parent struggling with the rituals
  • How to sell services to desperate adult child callers
  • How to use GCM tools to contain Holiday chaos
  • How to use financial forecasting to prepare for growth during the holidays
  • How to work with both dysfunctional and long-distance families who call during the holidays
    • Sign Up
  • https://cathycress.lpages.co/november-14-tame-the-turbulance-webinar/

 

 

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Warning Signs on Visiting Mother’s Day

May 7, 2013

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Take more than a gift if you visit an aging Mom on Mother’s Day. Take a check list for red flags. If you can go and see Mom in person on Mother’s Day, you can check up on your aging mother’s safety while you are there. Sometimes, during your visits, you may hear alarm bells, like piles of junk mail or consistently dirty clothes. Below is a list to take with you when you go to Mom’s house on Mother’s Day, or any holiday. If you do find worrisome signs, this is a good time to call a geriatric care manager to assess your mother. To find a great GCM go to National Association of Professional Geriatric Care Managers

Clutter in the house
Unpaid bills
Evidence of missed appointments, getting lost, or wandering
Weight loss
Poor grooming

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How to Add Psychsocial Problems to Your Care Plan

March 6, 2013

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What is the next step in creating a care plan? You started with the initial reason the family member or client called you as a geriatric care manager or aging professional. The first assessment you turned to is your functional assessment. After addressing the first problem, you continued creating your care plan by listing the client’s problems from your functional problems.

Next you list the psychosocial problems taken from your psychosocial assessment. Say our Parkinson’s client’s adult children are arguing about whether to place him at a higher level of care or keep him at home. This would be a psychosocial problem and a family meeting initiated by you the GCM or aging professional would be the intervention in your care plan. Perhaps our older client is living with an older woman companion and the adult children suspect her of trying to get their father to change his trust in her favor. That would be a psychosocial problem and the solution would be to identify your Parkinson’s client elder law attorney and, with the adult children’s consent, set up a meeting with the family and the elder law attorney to discuss their concerns about fiscal elder abuse. You do a geriatric depression scale and find your elderly Parkinson’ client is depressed. Your psychosocial intervention may be to make an appointment with his physician and have him evaluated and to identify some activities he could take place in that would increase his quality of life and decrease his depression.

 

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Family Caregiving – Is It A Choice or Your Fate? Who Are They

February 18, 2013

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Who are these family members who become accidental caregivers? According the a seminal paper produced by the National Center for Caregiving at Family Caregiver Alliance in 2006, a family caregiver can be defined as any relative, partner, friend, or neighbor who has a significant personal relationship with and provides a broad range of assistance for, an older person or an adult with a chronic or disabling condition. These individuals can be primary or secondary and live with or separately from the person receiving care. The family caregiver does not to have to give direct care but can supervise arrange, or give” a broad range of assistance”

 

Family Caregivers number approximately 44 million, 18 or older provide unpaid assistance and support older people and adults with disabilities in the community. Family members or relatives represent 83%. Most are middle aged and their age’s ranges from 35- 64 years old. Ethnicity vary with 21% for both white and African American, 18% Asian and 18% Hispanic About 1 out of 2 of all caregivers are women. Slightly half of caregivers (48%) are employed outside the home with full time jobs.

The amount of care these family caregivers render varies widely from 8 hours to more than 40 hours. These caregivers give care for an exhaustingly long time and average of 4.3 years.

Spouses who care for their wife or husband at home are, according to Dr. Steven Zarit of the Zarit –Burden scale , between 69 and 73 years old. So they are already somewhat frail themselves to be taking on sometimes complicated major medical tasks.

 

Carol Levine,  a pioneer in the caregiver assessment movement and a female caregiver herself, points out that the broader view we must take as professionals is that family caregivers are mostly wives, daughters and daughters in law. Most are middle aged. .The majority felt they had no choice but to assume this role. It was not their calling; they felt, but their fate

 

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