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Ten Warning Signs You Are Working With a Dysfunctional Family

November 3, 2022

Working with Dysfunctional Family

Ten Warning Signs you are Working with Dysfunctional Family represents critical information to share with long-distance caregivers before their holiday visit. Do you know them? They include contentiousness, anger, and cut off and all are listed below. These clinical issues give the visiting caregiver signs that they need to call a care manager and you the care manager the most challenging job of an aging professional. What you have to know is family system theory and be clinically skilled in entering this treacherous family system – to get care for an older person

1. Contentiousness – Old fights erupt; the siblings and parents get into arguments with one another about an old issue

2. Anger – Siblings and family members express physical anger, emotional abuse, financial abuse

3. Distancing & cut off – Some siblings or parents have nothing to do with family and may not speak to parents or siblings for long periods of time.

Ten Warning Signs You are Working with the  Dysfunctional Family – Fusion, Denial, Triangulation, Entitlement

4. Fusion – Siblings and family members, such as the mother and eldest daughter, blend into one another, For example, the daughter sounds, acts, and has the same prejudices as the mother. . Think of the media’s portrayal of Lindsay Lohan and her mother.

5. Denial – Adult siblings do not see a decline in a parent, do not face reality, and do not take care of parent if he or she needs care.                           

6. Triangulation – Tension between two family members or siblings causes one to enlist a third family member or sibling to avoid change For example, two adult sibling object to the cost of care of an aging parent. They gang up on the third adult sibling who thinks the cost of care is reasonable and justified.

7. Sense of Entitlement – Siblings who are accustomed to purchasing services need not personally solve their own, children’s siblings or parents’ problems. This lack of engagement leaves them, unprepared and unwilling in getting involved in solving family tribulations.

Ten Warning Signs You Are Working with a Dysfunctional Family – Narcissism, Needy Adult Siblings, Substance Abuse, and Cut Off

8. Narcissism – One or more siblings has an “it’s all about me” attitude and

other siblings resent this. The self-absorbed sibling either does not participate

9. Needy Adult Siblings – These adult siblings feel starved for affection and often seek affection from professionals and other people in their lives for compensation for the care they didn’t receive as children.

10 . Substance and Other Abuse – The family and siblings have a history of drug, alcohol, and/or child abuse.

If this fits you you and your aging parent needs care may need to contact a geriatric care manager.

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May 16, 2022

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The Handbook of Geriatric Care Management is called the bible of geriatric care management. It has been available since 1989 and is used as a textbook in gerontology classes all over the US. Asia and Europe.  The Fourth Edition is a comprehensive guide for geriatric care managers (GCMs) to help define duties and procedures for planning and care monitoring.The 5th edition is planned It is available from Jones and Bartlett

 

 

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What To Expect Narcissistic Entitled Families Who Call a Care Manager

March 10, 2020

 Four types of aging families, who can afford geriatric care management and private duty home care as they have the financial resources, will call you to inquire about your services. You need to have excellent clinical skills to manage these families.

Two are dysfunctional aging families who take extensive psychodynamic skills. One is the narcissistic entitled family.

Part of this is drawn from Claudia Fine formerly of Senior Bridge and Nick Newcombe excellent chapter ” Entitlement in the Aging Family”, Care Managers Working With the Aging Family, Jones, and Bartlett)

Narcissistic-Entitled Families:

Entitlement in these families usually develop from a specific kind of “not good enough parenting” in which the parents themselves have struggled with personality disorders. Typically, in this type of family, narcissistic borderline personality  .( example President Trump)the parent had a borderline personality that went undiagnosed or was formally diagnosed and untreated. The narcissistic or borderline parent essentially does not experience the child/children as separate and discreet from themselves and, moreover, uses the child/children to serve parental needs.  This parent-child relationship is characterized by severe boundary issues in which seduction and abandonment are ever-present dynamics and where emotional unpredictability and instability are constant.

What Will Take Your Great Clinical Skills With These Families?

Fine and Newcombe point out the adult child finds him or herself in is either of two categories. They can be elevated to the” perfect” child in the mental health challenged mother or father’s eyes, so that the parent feels worthwhile.
These children grow up to be your client’s family and the person who usually calls the care manager. If they hire you they are demanding because they are afraid if they are not inflexible with you they will get nothing from your services.worriedwoman300dpi-copy-e1425605439440.jpg
Or the second category where the child is devalued by the parent so that the narcissistic entitled mother or father feels superior ” perfect” and all-powerful. They will present, according, to Claudia Fine and Nick Newcombe, as needy and insatiable, and easily ” injured” by the care manager who is attempting to help them.

Both types of adult children who interact with you are frequently angry to care for the parent who never cared for them, gave little to them as a child, thus demanding and needy themselves. All this repulsion comes from never having a mother or dad who was there for them so in response will be difficult family caregivers to work with.

 ( Fine and Newcombe- Entitlement in the Aging Family, Care Managers Working With the Aging Family)

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