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The 2 Deadliest US Sites of COVID-19 Nursing Homes & Prisons

May 2, 2020

PRISON INMATES AND NURSING HOME PATIENTS NOT 6FT APART – 6 FEET UNDER

70% of inmates in federal prisons have COVID-19. In Kansas, the Lansing Correctional Facility had a riot of inmates over COVID-19 lack of care or protection It took the rebellion to get the coronavirus testing PPE and care. The Bureau of Prisons in Kansas confirmed finally that 79 staff have coronavirus and 88 prisons and prisoners dead.

Older residents in nursing homes cannot rebel like prisoners. Many can’t even walk. The Atlantic Magazine just published an article, We are Killing Elders Now. The writer states “In at least six states, these fatalities account for half of all COVID-19 deaths, and according to the World Health Organization, half of all coronavirus fatalities in Europe have been traced to nursing homes too. Some of this mortality is linked to long-term-care facilities that are shoddily run or that violate health standards. But most of them are doing the best they can with what they have. And they don’t have much”.

KAISER FOUNDATION NURSING HOME STAFFING AND USE OF PPE NOT REQUIRED IN MOST STATES

Kaiser reports -Staff Screening. It is more common for states to recommend rather than require daily screening of staff for illness in NFs (24 states recommend, 16 states + DC require)

Use of PPE. More states recommend (23 states) than require (7 states + DC) staff to use PPE

Two States that require testing for coronavirus of ALL residents of nursing homes are Maryland where 556 have died as of the Washington Post article. and Tennessee

THE FEDS HAVE NO CMS FEDERAL GUIDELINES OR REPORTING

We have no federal guidelines for safety testing according to an article by the Kaiser Foundation

It is now estimated that 16,000 deaths have occurred in nursing homes and that is without the federal government revealing any numbers and not making available any testing. But the numbers are probably huge- if we could just do testing.

CMS announced it would have a meeting of a “panel” of experts “ sometime at the end of May”. After probably 20,000 older people died and the feds did nothing this shows their sense of urgency about this pandemic’s national “elder cleansing”.

WHAT CONNECTS PRISONS AND NURSING HOMES – CONCENTRATION CAMPS

So, what is the connection between the viral spread of COVID-19 in nursing homes and prisons- 6 feet ? Prisoners and residents, in nursing homes, and prisons cannot social distance. Jails and prisons have human beings crammed together with no choice. Nursing homes have 2 beds or if you are on Medicaid three to a room. Neither group has a choice to social distance. They are ” concentrated” as in concentration camps or death camps.

Do SOMETHING – HELP NURSING HOMES PREVENT MORE CARNAGE

So, as someone who has spent her career in aging, I am calling out to everyone, especially professional in aging – do something. Since the feds appear to be doing little- call your congressman, write a letter to the editor.

BE KIND LIKE RACHEL MADDOW REPORTS LA JEWISH HOME LA WAS

Rachel Maddow suggests calling your local nursing homes and see what they need. Be kind like the LA Jewish Home was to a smaller nursing home LA Brier Oaks. They wanted to test their residents and had no tests and the larger LA Jewish Home had tests and shared them with the smaller as a good neighbor. What they found was ravaging but it also showed caring and generosity. Care and be generous and show the helpless elders in nursing homes in your town you are opposed to -nursing home being prisons or concentration camps.

8 Ways to Make Reminiscence a Valentine’s Gift for Aging Clients Tomorrow

February 13, 2020

Want a perfect Valentines’s gift for aging clients?

You already have it. A great Valentine’s for your older client is you the care manager, caregiver or family member- using reminiscence to gather an elders’ memories.

Reminiscence isn’t new. Before the printing press, storytellers and bards were how history was recorded-

Oral storytellers gave us the Odyssey and other oral tales. History exists in a family, and Ulysses or Penelope might be sitting in their home on Valentines’ Day- in the form of your aging clients.

But storytelling or reminiscence only works if the teller remembers the lines. Family history has to be captured when the older person still remembers. So holiday events are a perfect time to tap into that font before it flickers or dries up.

Capture Reminiscence

Here are some tips to use if you want to capture these family tales during Valentine’s visit with older clients—a perfect time to do this before age or dementia wipe their history.

Give Valentine’s gift each week of the year. Use StoryWorth. My daughter Kali Peterson Murphy, who is also in aging as a Program Officer, with the SCAN Foundation, purchased this as a Holiday gift for my husband and her Dad Pete. I love this as a user and a Geriatric care manager. Each week it prompts Pete to answer a question that my daughter chooses when she purchases StoryWorth. Pete can actually change the questions to be ones he wants to answer. Pete writes the answers and I record them on my iPhone and send them into Story Worth with photos that I have gathered of Pete’s life and stored on Google Photos.( this is an option) At the end of the year, her about to be 79-year-old Dad gets a book with all his stories.

It is a slam dunk for reminiscence. The adult child and or family receive the family history to be passed down, the older family members get to both tell her or his story and know that their family is interested in what they have to share from their past and in the end get a book about their lifeform it a fabulous gift.

Order it from Valentine’s Day tomorrow and you will have a year full of family history, an aging adult who knows you care about listening to them and an incredible gift of a reminiscence book for next Valentines’ Day and the rest of your life that you can pass down.

If you visit Reminiscence Tips

2. First, arrive with a real Valentine card and a small sensory gift like a little chocolate or some fresh red and white flowers. Just the card and the gift evoke memories

3. Use empathetic listening Make all the messages you give the older person— tone, how fast you speak, how they are sitting- say, “I want to listen to you.” This in itself is a gift to an older person as few people really listen to them as they age.

4. Ask questions that prompt the story but don’t make judgments. If there are going to record the family tale, as on your I phone, do it in a way that doesn’t distract or stop the older person from talking.

5. You might ask the client or the family for some family photos of the older person growing up, getting married, and use those as memory prompts.

6. Start somewhere. If the elder isn’t going to tell stories on his or her own, start the story and see if they will follow along.” Did you go to Valentine’s parties when you were a kid or celebrate the day in school by exchanging valentines .” Did you have a special valentine as a teenager or young adult?”

7. If the client has dementia you can still do this with reminiscence prompts like a valentine, chocolate, some flowers or a simple valentine decoration you bring.

8. Use technology tools to help you with this legacy-building for your older client like Life Bio- or

Quick Voice Recorder to catch the memory on your phone.

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Ways to Deliver Loving Care for Family Caregivers on Valentines Day

February 5, 2020

What about Valentines gifts for family caregivers?

Think about Valentine’s gifts for family caregivers. What can a geriatric care manager do for family caregivers for valentine’s -the day is about love. Can we count the ways family caregivers who care for an aging family member represent the heart and soul love of Valentines’ Day?

Here are some ideas

Loving gifts from your agency, like a small gift of chocolate, is a typical valentine treat but also comes in handy to relieve stress and tastes sinfully good. Sending valentines to all of your family caregivers is a sweet idea, acknowledging their caring while letting them know your agency cares about them. Offering some respite to the local family if that is possible or your agency offering a special package of reduced fee hours to give some respite maybe on valentine’s day itself would be a sweet gift.

Another gift is the simple act of thanking them for all they do at such a cost to themselves, which is rarely voiced. Another list of gifts including pampering caregivers and a way to find the right spa is something you could share with an adult sibling or adult children. AARP has its own terrific list with aromatherapy and bath essentials

Gifts For Aging Parent Caring for a Spouse

To an aging parent caring for a spouse, they can experience most fraught-filled valentine’s day. The person who they gave all your heart to – at times for many decades- is there but not there in a way in many ways. So, suggesting to adult children that they might take taking the couple out for dinner or provide respite to the spouse and taking her to a special valentine’s brunch or event- can make a perfect gift. This can be a soulful warm gift for someone spending time with the love of their life who is not able to share the romantic day anymore.

Caregiver Gifts From Adult Children

Give adult children ideas for caregiver gifts.. Pinterest has a whole board of gifts for caregivers for valentine’s day. Grandchildren can also make inexpensive valentines gifts if she is caring for grandpa

Be a gold standard care management agency on Valentine’s day and show love for your family caregivers in any way you can.

Have You Sent A Valentine to Your Mom If She’s Your Financial Safety Net??

February 9, 2019

On Valentine’s Day it is not only grandchildren who should send valentines to Grandma but working mothers who should send heartfelt greetings to greeting. A recent study showed the majority of American households spend more than 10% of their household income on childcare — and a fifth of households more than a quarter of their income So if grandmothers offer free childcare, they are the financial safety net for young grandchildren.

They are often free caregivers for aging spouses, relieving the midlife daughters of that burden but inflicting mental and physical stress on themselves.

In fact AARP shows that approximately 43.5 million caregivers have provided unpaid care to an adult or child in 2013.In the same study, projected at $470 billion in 2013, the value of unpaid caregiving exceeded the value of paid home care and total Medicaid spending in the same year and nearly matched the value of the sales of the world’s largest company, Wal-Mart ($477 billion). [AARP Public Policy Institute. (2015). Valuing the Invaluable: 2015 Update.] Think of what is must be in 2019.

Grandmothers are not only that financial safety net but also an emotional safety net for spouses grandchildren. Younger siblings are happier and healthier when grandmother’s pitch in. Not only sibling get that boost from Grandma being there but Mom’s and Dads are less psychologically stressed if grandmother’s support their family taking over some of the multiple parental chores to raise young siblings.
And as Grandmother’s, AARP tells us what we know- it is sometimes the greatest joy of our lives and increases the quality of life of older people like nothing else can do
Even picking up after school, babysitting or helping in a garage sale make grandmothers a blessing. Making a missing baby book for the second third and fourth kid did who not get one, as parents were overwhelmed, is a huge support for parents and kids.

Grandmother’s help can be a key to making kids president. Both President Obama and President Clinton were raised in part by their grandmothers. Or take former Grandma in Chief, Michele Obama’s Mom, who watched over the Obama daughters as their parents raised healthy siblings while Mom and Dad and traveled the world.

So, working women with grandparent help send your Mom or Dad a card on Valentine’s Day and know we grandparents just adore those cards, handmade if possible, from those special Valentines who have our hearts- our grandchildren.

When they need your help as they age- remember what grandmother’s do for us. For now, send a valentine. Perhaps later look for a great aging life or geriatric care manager

Last Minute Valentines Gifts for Grandma

May 4, 2013

Valentine’s Day is coming up tomorrow. This is a ritual holiday that aging families can really celebrate. Here are

baby-boomer mature daughter gives her senior mother-in-law a red, heart-shaped box of chocolates for a Valentine’s Day gift

some gift ideas you do can make or do at the last minute to Mom feel extra special on a day about love. These ceremonial holidays and gifts mean so much more when parents are older.

Bringing the grandchildren into the celebration is a lovely gift in itself.
Handmade cards from grandkids are a top drawer present. Just bring them over with flowers or candy. If Mom lived long distance you can have the young artists email copies their colorful greetings or think of giving Mom My Celery as a gift for future holidays and sending mom greeting. This is an easy 2-way computer free e-mail where the grandchildren can email grandma a greeting for Valentine day- or any day they want. It just comes out of a fax in Grandma’s home and works with any fax she may already have. You and the kids can then send her pictures, reminder, and notes throughout the year. You might pay extra shipping or have a friend, neighbor or relative pick up and deliver for you

Another wonderful product is Presto, a printing mailbox that prints e-mails and attachments. You can scan your 4-year-olds terrific cards (kids art is the greatest) and e-mail Grandma as an attachment. With Presto, the card comes out of her fax you either buy as a gift for mother’s day or skip the fax if she has one already. You could have a friend, other relative or Mom’s neighbor pick it up where she lives and deliver it as a surprise

You could all make a big sign to have that same friend or neighbor – or relative tack somewhere in Mom’s home saying “Happy Valentines Day.” A homemade gift is really a bonus for grandma or Mom. Handcrafted gifts are penny wise but mean more than storebought because they came from you or the kids. Grandmothers radiate in handcrafted gifts

If your kids or you are arty make a mobile for Mom /grandmom. Attach cutouts of items she loves most -like her cat, photos of the grandkids or her favorite food. (mine would be chocolate covered cherries. Then you can use Skype or your i phone to show it to her then mail it

When they were little, my daughter made simple prints of my grandchildren’s hands and framed them with an inexpensive frame- a great gift for me. You probably can hold off on these thoughts until mothers day

If you have a Geriatric Care Manager, you can have her take care of all this for you as she or he is in the same town. They have a big heart as well.

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