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Ten Warning Signs You Are Working With a Dysfunctional Family

November 3, 2022

Working with Dysfunctional Family

Ten Warning Signs you are Working with Dysfunctional Family represents critical information to share with long-distance caregivers before their holiday visit. Do you know them? They include contentiousness, anger, and cut off and all are listed below. These clinical issues give the visiting caregiver signs that they need to call a care manager and you the care manager the most challenging job of an aging professional. What you have to know is family system theory and be clinically skilled in entering this treacherous family system – to get care for an older person

1. Contentiousness – Old fights erupt; the siblings and parents get into arguments with one another about an old issue

2. Anger – Siblings and family members express physical anger, emotional abuse, financial abuse

3. Distancing & cut off – Some siblings or parents have nothing to do with family and may not speak to parents or siblings for long periods of time.

Ten Warning Signs You are Working with the  Dysfunctional Family – Fusion, Denial, Triangulation, Entitlement

4. Fusion – Siblings and family members, such as the mother and eldest daughter, blend into one another, For example, the daughter sounds, acts, and has the same prejudices as the mother. . Think of the media’s portrayal of Lindsay Lohan and her mother.

5. Denial – Adult siblings do not see a decline in a parent, do not face reality, and do not take care of parent if he or she needs care.                           

6. Triangulation – Tension between two family members or siblings causes one to enlist a third family member or sibling to avoid change For example, two adult sibling object to the cost of care of an aging parent. They gang up on the third adult sibling who thinks the cost of care is reasonable and justified.

7. Sense of Entitlement – Siblings who are accustomed to purchasing services need not personally solve their own, children’s siblings or parents’ problems. This lack of engagement leaves them, unprepared and unwilling in getting involved in solving family tribulations.

Ten Warning Signs You Are Working with a Dysfunctional Family – Narcissism, Needy Adult Siblings, Substance Abuse, and Cut Off

8. Narcissism – One or more siblings has an “it’s all about me” attitude and

other siblings resent this. The self-absorbed sibling either does not participate

9. Needy Adult Siblings – These adult siblings feel starved for affection and often seek affection from professionals and other people in their lives for compensation for the care they didn’t receive as children.

10 . Substance and Other Abuse – The family and siblings have a history of drug, alcohol, and/or child abuse.

If this fits you you and your aging parent needs care may need to contact a geriatric care manager.

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Get Ready for the Holiday Rush

WEDNESDAY, November 16th, 2022, FROM 2 PM – 3:30 PM PST

 Learn how to create!

  • Pre-Holiday Social media campaigns to reach worried caregivers
  • Pre- Holiday-Materials about the warning signs that a parent needs help
  • Pre-Holiday Marketing to help you sign up families who might face a serious decline in aging parents
  • How to sell services to desperate post-holiday callers from Normal dysfunctional & long-distance family
  • How to use tools to contain holiday chaos & arrange care in festive family fright
  • How to move the family to New Year’s stability
  • Know The Ten Warning Signs you are working with a dysfunctional family and position Your Agency ahead of Care Managers who do not have great pre-holiday marketing campaigns and lack the clinical skills how to work with Adult Children and families during the chaotic aging family holiday visit when adult kids find their aging parents need care
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Last Day to Sign Up Webinar -Sell Benefits Not Features to Wealth Managers

September 26, 2022

 Sell Benefits, not Features to Wealth Managers to Grow Your$ Bottom Line

Sell benefits not features to wealth manager is a key to great marketing. Do you know how you do that? &When you market Geriatric care management, what makes the sales is ” What’s in it for me the 3rd party. “Benefits answer that question for your targets. Learn how to make a great marketing presentation and sale to 3rd parties, like wealth managers, elder law attorneys, Assisted Living Directors, Trust Departments, and Concierge Physicians by understanding the benefits geriatric care management brings to each and the rest of your target audiences.

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Managing Entitled Clients Like Donald Trump at Mar a lago in 10 Steps

September 8, 2022

Managing ENTITLED CLIENTS

Managing entitled clients is something every care manager needs to do skillfully. How Do You deliver and serve long-term clients from the top 10% financially- who can offer sustainable financial growth to your Aging Life or GCM company? Then how do you manage these difficult clients who are often referred by wealth managers? 

 

You offer superior professional  Gold Standard Concierge Service to Clients and the Family- Care they demand and their wealth managers expect

 

 You offer preventative care to avoid crises and chaos that can they often enjoy -Helping Keep Clients Out of E rooms and nursing homes and keep them at home where they wish to be and you from losing the case.

You write or rewrite your business plan that has a value proposition in your marketing plan to reach your target markets to concierge clients in the upper 10% and the third parties who in many cases serve them as well like  wealth managers  

10 CARE AND FEEDING TIPS TO KEEP ENTITLED CLIENTS LONG TERM 

  1. Deliver gold standard concierge service
  2. Offer confidential services that clients and families can trust
  3. Do not have the VIP syndrome  with these sometimes famous clients
  4. Serve the whole aging family where adult children are entitled and difficult as well.
  5. Provide a GPS through health care needs so that the best care is delivered seamlessly
  6. Have a full GCM toolbox and know all community resources –to change tools as client change and age safely in place
  7. Refer or provide skilled background-checked home care aides who meet the need of entitled clients
  8. Be willing and skilled enough to accept difficult entitled clients who are narcissistic, demanding, and unreasonable like Donald Trump, Sumner Redstone, Huguette Clark 
  9. Have someone on your staff who has a clinical background in dysfunctional aging families, and psychodynamic diagnosis, and understands undue influence 
  10. Have upscale resources in your resource database like private drivers, private chefs, car services, upscale golf clubs that cater to older clients, and upscale assisted living

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Managing Entitled Clients

 

 Learn how to sell your services to the gatekeepers to the clients who can pay privately for long periods of time, when you deliver your gold standard care management services.

Wealth managers and trust officers will refer their VIP clients to you if you can sell care management benefits and features to their entitled clients,

 bring the right handouts and, do the perfect presentation with the winning pitch

When September 27th 2-3:30 PM Pacific

What you will learn


  • Why market to wealth managers and trust departments
  • The benefits and features GCM offers to wealth managers
  • Who are top wealth managers
  • How do you find them, set up a meeting, what to bring, what to present with the perfect pitch

Interview with GCM Patrice Harrison who works with trusts – what they want in a GCM

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What GCM Benefits to Offer Wealth Management – Trust Departments?

June 21, 2021

Signing Up ENTITLED CLIENTS

Selling your care management services to wealthy clients who can afford you means marketing your  benefits and features to third parties like

Trust officers or wealth managers, who will make referrals of these key client.

But your most compelling sales message to a trust department or any 3rd party is not that you have something wonderful to sell, but rather “I understand what you need and what will benefit you as a wealth manager or trust officer.”

You sell GCM or ALCA to wealth managers through the VIP benefits you bring them with the Benefit method…

You offer the trust officer the benefits of  high-end services from your resource databases like private drivers, private chefs, car services, exclusive golf clubs and recreation that  his or her private trust clients want. You explain to the wealth manager this Benefit so the wealth manager will be assured you know what his high-end clients prefer for services (and will take this off their plate)!

The Trust officer or wealth manager benefits from your skills in working with difficult entitled clients who can be narcissistic, demanding and unreasonable. The Benefit to the wealth manager is that is taken off their plate so he or she can do what she does  best…manage money. 

 

  • The Trust officer or wealth manager benefits from your skill of regularly monitoring  the health and psychosocial status of the older client, and report back to the financial advisors when a change in care needs or level of care is needed. The Trust officer or wealth manager benefits from your skills in referring to the very top  medical and psychological 3rd parties for clients so have the highest quality VIP health care and quality of life. The Benefit is a wealth manager can tap your list of gold standard services in the community, and not have to find them or his own.
  • The Trust officer or wealth manager benefits from your skills in  working with her concierge clients individually –The Benefit is the entitled trust client feel that they have a 1-1 personal concierge who will serve them individually in finding the best, VIP care, they feel they deserve

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  • Who Are the 4 types of VIP Client?
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  • How to create or revise a Concierge Geriatric Care Management Strategic Marketing Plan
  • How to Use Free PR to Use to Find Adult Children of VIP Clients

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Warning Sign #2 You are Working With an Aging Dysfunctional Family

January 18, 2021

Dysfunctional Families and Anger – physical anger, emotional abuse, financial abuse

Fiscal and emotional abuse are the red blinking second signs of the dysfunctional aging family. Anger occurs normally in all families. However, in dysfunctional families, anger may take the form of repeated physical or

emotional abuse. This happens not only in one generation but passed on to the next and perhaps all subsequent generations. Adult children are often getting even with their aging parents for being neglectful, perhaps physically abusive parents when these angry adult children were kids.

Fiscal abuse is a ” sleeper” form of abuse,  yet a pernicious aging family problem. Adult children committed a whopping 40% of the abuse. Other family members were the next big thief’s investigated. The coming holidays create jaw-clenching stress on adult children who visit and finally see their parents decline. This means they need to care for them, which they have no idea how to do. Part of that comes from- they were never cared for as kids themselves. The holidays can be saved for a dysfunctional family, by care managers. Care managers can help them avoid abuse and support them to get the care they need for their aging parents who neglected them as children. 

Financial Advisors Can be Thieves Too

President Obama’s administration attempted to protect investors, who are often people trying to plan their retirement. The so-called fiduciary rule would have required financial advisers working with retirement accounts to put the interests of their clients ahead of their own—

The Trump administration, aiding and abetting in this theft, “blocked this rule and continues to block many retiring and aging client interests – putting them second and financial advisors interest (or ) profit first. This rule was supposed to go into effect on January 1, 2018, but was blocked again by the Trump Administration.

The securities industry received an early Christmas present from Trump’s outgoing Administration when the White House hastily cleared the way for the Department of Labor to lower the standard of care of investment advice fiduciaries, and this represents a dramatic and unprecedented reversal of the intent of Congress in enacting ERISA. The Public Investors Advocate Bar Association stated that “Workers and retirees deserve far better. They deserve to have their retirement savings protected, and they should be able to rely on those they have gone to for investment advice.”

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5 Vital Clinical Tools to Help Aging Dysfunctional Families-Post Horrid Holidays- 

             Thursday, January 21, 2021

  Give frantic adult children hope when they desperately call after the holiday  

 Join me and learn how to come to the rescue of concierge dysfunctional families who found coal in their stocking.      

Learn how to!

  • Understand the Dysfunctional Aging Family System you must enter to get care for elders
  • Understand 11 Warning Signs You Are Working with Dysfunctional Family
  • Master Vital Clinical Tools, you to solve client problems
  • Take Six Steps Professional Must Take to Work with These Difficult Families
  • Get care for aging family members when the dysfunctional family members resist

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