What do you call your half -sibling- great NY Times post
The Top Ten Reasons Why You Can Afford A Geriatric Care Manager by Phyllis Brostoff
10. We can do in 2 hours what it would take you 2 weeks to do.
9. We know how to get around that “I’m saving for a rainy day” syndrome, when your folks are drowning in their problems.
8. We’re much cheaper than the cost of plane fare if you have to fly into town when your parents say “everything is fine” but you know it isn’t.
7. We can give you the scoop on which nursing home is really right for your parents.
6. We can make your parents hear what you have said over and over again, but they refuse to listen to them, you are still a child.
5. We can tell your annoying siblings to shut up, but graciously.
4. We’ve helped hundreds of families a lot worse than yours.
3. Your dad can’t push our buttons.
2. Next time you want to hang up on your mother, you can tell her to call us.
1. We’re available 24/7, so you don’t have to be.
Summer is here and many midlife siblings and their own family of young siblings are bound for Grandma ‘s house. Before you go over the river and through the woods, call a geriatric care manager in their area. You can find one of the National Geriatric Care Management site by just adding your Mom’s zip code. Make an appointment to go to their office and meet with them, during the visit to your aging parents. Most GCM’s will see you to discuss their services at no charge. You can shop around and interview a few if you wish.
Why do that before you go over the river. Well there just may be a flood in your future and a wolf in your woods. Calling a geriatric care manager is a preventative and prudent step. If you to have a geriatric care manager in the town where your older relative resides, they build dams and scare off those wolves.
If there is a crisis with grandma, it is cheaper to have a local geriatric care manager solve the problem. When you get the dreaded call about a fall or hospitalization, you have to fly or drive to grandmas. The geriatric care manager is minutes away and can get there immediately- like a first responder in an ambulance. In an urgent situation, they can go to the hospital or emergency room. This is more sane and cost effective than you getting on last minute, expensive flights or driving hundreds of exhausting miles. You can still go to grandpa or grandmas but the geriatric care manager can immediately be there to deal with the crisis. They are good insurance.
Before any crisis, ever occurs you can have the GCM do an initial assessment and visit your older relative periodically (once a month, once every two months). This is preventative. That way they are there for you when you need them and have all the information to solve the problem. Think of them the way you do one of those blow-up beds. You can pump them up when you need them in a crisis—perhaps avoid that crisis, and you yourself can sleep more soundly and with more peace of mind in your own bed. Some of the things a geriatric care manager can do for you are:
1.Save you money by helping keep your parent out of the hospital and you off emergency long distance flights.
2.Facilitate a family discussion of needs, resources, and division of labor among friends family
3. Recommend ways to proactively prepare and plan for a parent’s possible health care crisis.
4.Work on family cooperation to formulate realistic parent-care plan.
5.Assess strengths and weaknesses of all of the potential caregivers
6. Help adult siblings resolve conflicts about care decisions.
7.Help siblings act together in the best interest of the parent
8.Decrease the tension between hometown and long distance siblings
9. Help the long-distance care provider deal with guilt and frustration that may result from their inability to provide more of the day-to-day care.
10.Locate aging resources (both no -cost trough the older Americans Act) in your aging parents area quickly and without you having to do it
So before the family reunion, your, summer vacation, or labor day come and go- call a geriatric care manager so that your Mom or Dad are have a geriatric care manager to stave off or solve any crisis, so you don’t have to face a bigger messier problem your aging parent is safe, and you have PEACE OF MIND.
In 2011,I published the 3rd edition of the Handbook of Geriatric Care Management.Jones and Bartlett. This book is called the bible of the field of geriatric care management The book is a comprehensive guide for Geriatric Care Managers (GCMs) to help define duties and procedures while providing guidelines for setting up a geriatric care practice. An essential teaching tool, this new edition is an easy-to-use, practical guide that gives students the foundation they need to receive a certificate or degree in GCM. The Third Edition has been completely updated with revised chapters on psychosocial assessment, functional assessment, ethnic and cultural assessment, and writing a geriatric assessment. Also included throughout the text for additional study are sample forms, sample letters, and case examples.
Now if you are an existing geriatric care manager, want to start a geriatric care management agency or a non-profit or for profit consortium of services and want to add a profit center like geriatric care management to your mix, or are a home health agency and would like to add geriatric care management, I will have a new Operations Manual, My Geriatric Care Management Operations Manual, out soon to show you step by step how to operate a geriatric care management agency.
My Geriatric Care Management Operations Manual covers initial consultation, completing a contract, on call procedures writing a geriatric assessment and nine geriatric care managements service or products and steps by step how to offer/sell the and deliver them. The manual also contains over 100 forms to go with each service. It will be up on my web site soon.
If you need such a critical GCM tool, e mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I can send you some more detailed information and put you on the list to get one of the first copies. This manual has been used by two very large agencies on the east coast and boasted sales, productivity, clients, billing hours and quality of services. Why reinvent the wheel. Find out more about My Geriatric Care Management Agency Operations Manual today
Are you a midlife sibling who wants to organize a family meeting with other siblings, around a parent needing care? An outside party, such as a facilitator or mediator, should lead these formal gatherings and a great choice is a geriatric care manager
If you are midlife siblings in a dysfunctional family you need to choose a mediator to run the family meeting. Oftentimes difficult or broken sibling relationships, boiling emotions and old unsolved issues can weaken or even destroy family meetings. A geriatric care manager who has at least 100 hours of training in mediation who acts as an impartial third party to help dysfunctional families resolve particularly intractable differences. .
If you are in a nearly normal a geriatric care manager (GCM) can be the facilitator. GCM ‘s have years of experience working with nearly normal families who have a crisis around their parents care needs. These nearly normal clan members have negotiated all other family transitions well- babies, teenage years, and marriages of their children but the transition of a parent needing care can throw the most normal family into a crisis. This crisis usually demands a family meeting run by a facilitator.
A facilitator can remain objective and keep attendees on track, and can redirect complaints such as the hurt of a forgotten birthday, or ruined Thanksgiving toward a productive resolution. They can suggest one-to-one counseling to address the hateful episodes most families harbor in silence and help siblings navigate through new and difficult decisions. Family meetings need a prime mover with the expertise and background to help communication flow in an orderly manner down a productive course.
A facilitator is a person who accepts the responsibility to help the siblings address the problems that prompted the family meeting. He or she can develop the agenda and guide siblings as they talk about options and strategies to solve the difficulty at hand. She or he can help participants stick to the agenda so decisions and plans for solving problems are made within the time available. The facilitator does not make the decisions.
Look for a geriatric care manager to not only run family meeting but coordinate all the services your parent needs for their excellent care and then manage that care when it’s arranged. They are the go- to group for midlife adult siblings seeking help with aging parent problems.