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Dysfunctional Aging Family Adult Children Who Call You Where You Need Clinical Skills

August 22, 2023

3 Types of Dysfunctional Aging Family Children Calls

Where You Need Clinical Skills

# 1 Inquiry from a Narcissistic Adult Children

in Aging Dysfunctional Family

Dysfunctional adult children who inquire about your services can be a tough sell. First, let’s- consider The narcissistic adult child from an aging dysfunctional family who calls for help and has an “it’s all about me” attitude. The aging parent and or a midlife sibling could be narcissists. With aging parents, all siblings may have resented this self-absorption of their family their entire lives and have a love/hate relationship with older parents. Siblings, the other brothers, and sisters resent this, especially with parent care. The self-absorbed sibling either does not participate in solving sibling or aging family troubles but just makes them worse. They call after a disastrous holiday event like the coming Labor Day family gathering and you need clinical skills to work with them

#2 Inquiry from Devalued Child Entitled but Servile Adult.

Dysfunctional adult children who call you about your services can include devalued adult children from the aging dysfunctional family calls you, you need clinical skills to work with them.

As a kid, the adult child of a narcissistic parent was devalued in the parent’s eyes so that the now aging parent can feel superior and powerful in the world. These children mature into adults who are emotionally impoverished, inflexible, and needy.

As a geriatric care manager, the adult child presents as entitled. As clients, these adult children fear that unless they make inflexible demands, they will receive nothing. “ Get my mother into a concierge wing of a hospital by tomorrow”

An adult child of a narcissistic aging parent will present as nasty, aggressive, and devaluing of the service provider. Or they could be essentially insatiable and easily injured by the helping professional. The adult children of narcissistic entitled families are also often angry and frustrated at having to give care to a parent or parents whom they experienced as ungiving, demanding, intrusive, overpowering, and needy. They are members of an ultra-dysfunctional aging family. They call after a visit to aging parents and you need clinical skills to work with them

# 3-Inquiry from Needy Adult Children in the Dysfunctional Aging Family

The adult child who calls may be the needy adult child. Baby boomers must evolve beyond the needy child he or she has been, depending on aging parents’ fiscal,

emotional, and social support, to the adult who supports his parent. Adult Children of aging parents in the 21st century not only confront the delay of their own needs when their parent’s aging and reliance call them but confront their own future and very much more immediate loss of the central figure in their lives, their own parents.

Some don’t- especially in the dysfunctional aging family.

These adults feel starved for parental affection they never received and often seek affection from professionals and other people in their lives to compensate for the care they didn’t receive as children. They call after the holiday and you need clinical skills to work with them.

These 3 types of adult children have clinical difficulties that are coping and defense mechanisms allowing them to adapt to a dysfunctional family. The care manager must enter the family system clinically to address the needs symptoms and defenses of the adult children to get care for the elder.

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Calls From Aging Dysfunctional Families-Handling the Entitled Type

August 15, 2023

Calls From Aging Dysfunctional Families-Types of aging dysfunctional families who can call you over the summer vacation

Narcissistic-Entitled Families

Calls from aging dysfunctional families’ adult children or Narcissistic Entited Families’ adult kids will happen during the summer. These VIP Clinet’s adult children call you desperately for private care over the summer visit. Their problems usually develop from a specific kind of “not good enough parenting” where the parents themselves struggle with personality disorders, like narcissistic borderline personality. Families who can afford geriatric care management and home care long-term can do so because they are VIP clients. These narcissistic families, who can afford care-managed home care are often headed by a scion with a narcissistic borderline personality. Watch Succession, Yellowstone, or reruns of BIG Hair 89’s Dallas- award-winning shows you stream and you know who these Scions are. We love to hate them but binge on their evil ways. These VIP Clients have the financial resources, to pay 4-6K for home care and long-term geriatric care management which is usually over a million dollars in assets. When gathering with their adult children during the summer vacation at the family summer house or a family reunion they see the seams shredding in their parent’s minds or bodies and call you for help because they did not have those good enough parents and have no model to care for them as the parents usually did not care for the adult children as kids. They often have no interest in caring for the parents themselves, as they themselves are entitled. You need clinical skills to work with these families because of the diagnosis of narcissism, which can tear a country or family apart. Part of this is drawn from Claudia Fine and Nick Newcombe’s excellent chapter “Entitlement in the Aging Family”, Care Managers Working With the Aging Family, Jones and Bartlett)

Calls From Aging Dysfunctional families-Real & TV Narcissistic-Entitled Families:

Calls from aging dysfunctional families will come this summer- with adult children looking for help. They may see their parents faltering and face caring for them, which they have no plans to do. They will hire you like the private chef or the gardener, a service to carry out their wishes. Entitlement in their family causes the adult children to at times be as difficult and nasty as the parents. These VIP families usually develop from a specific kind of “not good enough parenting” in which the parents themselves have struggled with personality disorders, most typically, in this type of family, narcissistic borderline personality (for example Former President Trump)They struggled with a borderline personality that went undiagnosed or was formally diagnosed and untreated. We can also see this Narcissistic entitled family head in Brian Cox who in Secession plays the beloved Scion to Love and Hate Logan Roy based on real-life narcissist Rupert Murdock. The adult children will call over the summer when they notice their aging parents’ confusion often because they still fear their aging, more confused will be a perhaps more fierce parent, and the adult kids have no nerve to approach telling them they care. You need clinical skills to deal with them because they are not on TV but asking for your help in real life and narcissism and borderline personalities take the kind of clinical skills Claudia Fine and Nick Newcombe’s excellent chapter “Entitlement in the Aging Family”, Care Managers Working With the Aging Family, Jones and Bartlett) gives you if you read it. But if you watch HBO Succession you see them in a series that can be an instructive clinical accompaniment.

Calls from Aging Dysfunctional families-Sumner Redstone’s VIP Family Struggles

Calls from aging dysfunctional families like Sumner Redstone’s is another example of this type of narcissistic borderline personality in heading a VIP family. He was a Media Magnate who founded CBS Viacom with a net worth of 500 billion. His narcissistic borderline personality created a long-term struggle with his family over inheritance and control after he developed dementia. Mr Redstone was conserved by his daughter

These families call you often because they see you as a way to get control of their parents and their parent’s money. These are tricky situations where you must face conservatorship and real war with both parents and adult siblings fighting against each other for power and money, a replacement for the love they never received in the nest. So clinical skills are critical to handling them of all entitled families – they are Tyrannosaurus of dysfunctional families.

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Does VIP Marketing and Sales Plan Transform Your Bottom Line?

July 12, 2023

Marketing and Sales Plan to find VIP Clients Concierge Clients Will Make You a Profit

You need a VIP Marketing and Sales Plan to find Concierge Clients. Why- you can transform your agency into a profitable service by finding concierge clients for your care management agency

Why- a geriatric care manager is a powerful health care concierge, just like the new concierge medical services. This is a stellar selling point to potential GCM clients who are in the top 10% income brackets.

Find Concierge Clients upper 10% As Medicare Does Not Cover Long-Term Care

These well-to-do VIP Concierge clients can afford to pay privately for long-term care geriatric care management and private duty home care because they are financially in the upper 10% of the economy. Long-term care is not covered by Medicare, so only these wealthy Americans can pay for it.

Why is offering concierge services a great idea for this group of seniors? A geriatric care manager is a highly skilled professional who acts as a personal assistant to the aging family delivering the long-term care services they need at the right time, the right place for the right level of care

What Great Benefits You Bring When You Find the Concierge Client

What are the Benefits care managers offer VIP clients? You offer highly personalized aging parent care. VIP Concierge clients can reach you at almost any time. You build a deep relationship with the client and family. As a GPS through elder care, the GCM helps them step by step through one of the hardest journeys of their life. A geriatric care manager’s highly personalized service meets all the needs of the aging family and the client. GCMs are like a concierge at a 5-star hotel. with the 5-star VIP services like 24-hour on-call .They serve the family by solving their caregiving problems and making elder care more seamless. But here is a deal-breaker, most care managers did not know they must have. You need a marketing and sales background to sell VIP benefits, not features to convince the clients to sign up for your services.

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Sell Benefits to Close the GCM or ALCA Sale to Assisted Living

June 20, 2023

Care managers must sell benefits of Geriatric Care Management to assisted living.

Sell Benefits of care managers because GCMs must sell benefits. Care managers are perfect professionals to help assisted living residents if they have just moved in, are unhappy with the move, not participating in activities, isolating depressed, or are lonely – just not thriving in the resident community.

Marketing care management to ALF’s takes some particular marketing tactics

GCMs must sell benefits. Although it might seem counterintuitive, consumers rarely want to buy things for the sake of buying them – they want what they purchase to solve their problems.

To borrow from the example of an umbrella, features of this umbrella might be its unbreakable spokes or wind-resistant construction – but the benefit is staying dry even in strong winds that might break lesser umbrellas. The benefit of staying dry in strong winds that break other umbrellas – this makes the sale.

Clients who purchase home care or care management want to buy benefits – They want to know” what’s in it for me” when they buy your service .

GCM Sell Benefits To Assisted Living

Let’s take a third party. Care Managers often market to Assisted Living. ALF Directors want to hear how your ALCA or GCM agency is going to help the Assisted Living site. Of course, you can describe your agency’s features, price, training of staff, gold standard service. However, benefits are what make the sale and keep the Assisted Living dry not flooded by the rain.

But here are some benefits you can offer to Assisted Living when you are seeking referrals and you have a service for residents that involves Quality Of Life

YOUR GCM ALCA AGENCIES MUST SELL BENEFITS

Sell Benefits-: Assisted Living does not want residents to move out. Most facilities are strictly non-medical and do not have a one-to-one companion and geriatric care management services. Your geriatric care management agency can solve that problem by selling benefits of 1-1 Companion

The assisted living and retirement community population sometimes have clients with needs that cannot be met with their nonmedical, non-one-on-one support services, (usually just an activities director)

You will help the facility with residents who are not adjusting to the facility or considering moving by engaging them in activities that will enhance the quality of their life, SO WHAT so they remain in the facility
You will help residents not engaging in activities to participate in the ALF’s activities program or outside activities and socialization program through a quality of life assessment & companion, SO WHAT so they do not want to move out of the facility
You will engage with new residents who are just adjusting both to the facility and their move, to engage in socialization and activity programs. You can help them make friends & engage in outside activities through a quality of life assessment and companion, SO WHAT so they do not consider moving out
You will make monthly monitoring visits to make sure the Companion is meeting all the client’s needs, keep in touch with the family and facility with frequent e-mails, texts or telephone updates plus send a monthly report SO WHAT so everyone is on the same page through your great communication skills.

So, selling the benefits to the third party, who will refer your agency to families of residents who are struggling, is a much more potent selling point that features your agency.

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GCM Benefits Close the Sale to Assisted Living

June 14, 2023

Marketing Tactics – Use Benefits

GCM Benefits led to a sale.ALCA members need to sell the benefits of Geriatric Care Management to assisted living. Care managers are perfect professionals to help assisted living residents if they have just moved in, are unhappy with the move, are not participating in activities isolating, or are general when they are not thriving in the resident community.

Marketing care management to ALFs takes some particular marketing tactics

Although it might seem counterintuitive, consumers rarely want to buy things for the sake of buying them – they want what they purchase to solve their problems.

To borrow from the example of an umbrella, features of this umbrella might be its unbreakable spokes or wind-resistant construction – but the benefit is staying dry even in strong winds that might break lesser umbrellas. The benefit of staying dry in strong winds that break other umbrellas – this makes the sale.

Clients who purchase home care or care management want to buy benefits – what your product or service can do for them.

GCM Benefits To Assisted Living

Let’s take a third party. Care Managers often market to Assisted Living. ALF Directors want to hear how your ALCA or GCM agency will help the Assisted Living site. Of course, you can describe your agency’s features, price, staff training, and gold-standard service. However, benefits are what make the sale and keep the Assisted Living dry, not flooded by the rain.

But here are some benefits you can offer to Assisted Living when you are seeking referrals and you have a service for residents that involves Quality Of Life

YOUR GCM BENEFITS

The problem: Assisted Living does not want residents to move out. Most facilities are strictly non-medical and do not have a one-to-one companion and geriatric care management services. Your geriatric care management agency can solve that problem through the benefits of ALCA or geriatric care management.

The assisted living and retirement community population sometimes have clients with needs that cannot be met with their nonmedical, non-one-on-one support services (usually just an activities director)

You will help the facility with residents who are not adjusting to the facility or considering moving by engaging them in activities that will enhance the quality of their life, SO WHAT so they remain in the facility
You will help residents not engaging in activities to participate in the ALF’s activities program or outside activities and socialization program through a quality of life assessment & companion, SO WHAT so they do not want to move out of the facility
You will engage with new residents adjusting to the facility and their move to engage in socialization and activity programs. You can help them make friends & engage in outside activities through a quality of life assessment and companion, SO WHAT so they do not consider moving out
You will make monthly monitoring visits to make sure the Companion is meeting all the client’s needs, keep in touch with the family and facility with frequent e-mails, texts or telephone updates, plus send a monthly report SO WHAT so everyone is on the same page through your great communication skills.

So, selling the benefits to the third party, who will refer your agency to families of struggling residents, is a much more potent selling point that features your agency.

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The difference between selling features vs. benefits

How to sell the benefits of your services to each 3rd party you serve

What Benefits make your sale to wealth managers, elder law attorneys, and concierge physicians to get referrals for new clients

The Benefits that make your sale to upscale Assisted Living, accountants, financial planners, Hospice

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