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Dysfunctional Aging Family Adult Children Who Call You Where You Need Clinical Skills

August 22, 2023

3 Types of Dysfunctional Aging Family Children Calls

Where You Need Clinical Skills

# 1 Inquiry from a Narcissistic Adult Children

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Dysfunctional adult children who inquire about your services can be a tough sell. First, let’s- consider The narcissistic adult child from an aging dysfunctional family who calls for help and has an “it’s all about me” attitude. The aging parent and or a midlife sibling could be narcissists. With aging parents, all siblings may have resented this self-absorption of their family their entire lives and have a love/hate relationship with older parents. Siblings, the other brothers, and sisters resent this, especially with parent care.  The self-absorbed sibling either does not participate in solving sibling or aging family troubles but just makes them worse. They call after a disastrous holiday event like the coming  Labor Day family gathering and you need clinical skills to work with them

#2 Inquiry from Devalued Child Entitled but Servile Adult.

 

Dysfunctional adult children who call you about your services can include devalued adult children from the aging dysfunctional family calls you, you need clinical skills to work with them. 

As a kid, the adult child of a narcissistic parent was devalued in the parent’s eyes so that the now aging parent can feel superior and powerful in the world. These children mature into adults who are emotionally impoverished, inflexible, and needy.

As a geriatric care manager, the adult child presents as entitled. As clients, these adult children fear that unless they make inflexible demands, they will receive nothing. “ Get my mother into a concierge wing of a hospital by tomorrow”

An adult child of a narcissistic aging parent will present as nasty, aggressive, and devaluing of the service provider. Or they could be essentially insatiable and easily injured by the helping professional. The adult children of narcissistic entitled families are also often angry and frustrated at having to give care to a parent or parents whom they experienced as ungiving, demanding, intrusive, overpowering, and needy. They are members of an ultra-dysfunctional aging family. They call after a visit to aging parents and you need clinical skills to work with them 

# 3-Inquiry from Needy Adult Children in the Dysfunctional Aging Family

 The adult child who calls may be the needy adult child. Baby boomers must evolve beyond the needy child he or she has been, depending on aging parents’ fiscal,

emotional, and social support, to the adult who supports his parent. Adult Children of aging parents in the 21st century not only confront the delay of their own needs when their parent’s aging and reliance call them but confront their own future and very much more immediate loss of the central figure in their lives, their own parents.

Some don’t- especially in the dysfunctional aging family.

These adults feel starved for parental affection they never received and often seek affection from professionals and other people in their lives to compensate for the care they didn’t receive as children. They call after the holiday and you need clinical skills to work with them. 

These 3  types of adult children have clinical difficulties that are coping and defense mechanisms allowing them to adapt to a dysfunctional family. The care manager must enter the family system clinically to address the needs symptoms and defenses of the adult children to get care for the elder.

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Sell GCM or ALCA to wealth managers?

July 13, 2023

 

 

 

What makes 3rd Parties Like Wealth Managers Refer to Care Managers?

Do you want to sell to wealth managers? Why would third parties like wealth managers trust officers, sell to  GCM or ALCA by referring clients to a care manager If you have an Aging Life or GCM business you need to know. It is the benefits you bring to the 3rd party and their aging client.

Benefits you bring to the 3rd party and their aging client.

Clients in the upper 5% of income will call you because their wealth manager or bank trust officers referred them. But the wealth manager needs to know what benefits you offer them and their clients if they are to make referrals to your agency. On the feeding chain of referrals, they are one of your most important sources to feed income for your business. because these clients can pay privately for many years with their mammoth incomes and investment. You have to deliver what benefit you promises sell Benefits, not Features to Wealth Managers to Grow Your$ Bottom Line

Sell benefits not features to wealth managers is a key to great marketing. Do you know how you do that? When you market Geriatric care management, what makes the final sale is ” What’s in it for me the 3rd party. “Benefits answer that question for your targets. Learn how to make a great marketing presentation and sale to 3rd parties, like wealth managers or bank trust Departments, by understanding the benefits geriatric care management brings to them and the rest of your target audiences.

 

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Why Adding Care Planning & Care Management Private Duty Home Care Great Idea?

May 1, 2023

Adding Care Management to Home Care Gives Clients Path to Hope

By adding geriatric care management to a private duty home care agency, new clients will understand the solutions and path to hope you bring beyond home care. This offers buy-into your agency, customer satisfaction, and trust in your service, thus hope that the elder care problem can be solved.

 

In the care planning process, a geriatric care manager is vital to families, particularly in the early stages of caregiving. Most families do not understand the needs and problems of the older adult or the costs associated with these options.  They are under terrible stress because they feel out of control. The care manager will explain the problems, solutions, and cost at a one-to-one care planning meeting. This makes new families and clients feel in control and have hope, which is vital to keeping the case long-term. GCM becomes their trusted guide.

A geriatric care manager sorts all the problems in the case and comes up with important solutions in a care plan; they use that to explain what is needed for the client. She/He is very much like a detective- a professional Sherlock Holmes, solving the case for a very confused, desperate family.

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Education training and experience.

Providing a care plan and opportunity for discussion and buy-in among family members can be important in educating, initiating, modifying, or continuing PDHC services. Instead of an agency, the client bonds with the care manager and builds a 1-1 relationship that is long-lasting and puts a face on an agency.
The key is a highly trained, experienced, certified geriatric care manager, not a staff member who is called a care manager but has no training. Since the care managers added to the homecare bill per hour, this multi-faceted professional will pay for her/his salary many times and allow you to bill for what you have been doing for free.
Creating a care plan is not just an art- it is a skill that takes education, training, and experience.

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Money is the first and most important reason to merge care management with home care. You will be able to capture billable hours that you and now giving away for free. The second reason to add care management to home care is market positioning. Clients will choose your agency if you offer this merger and competitors do not. A third reason is that a care manager is perfect for introducing home care to family caregivers. Care Managers sit down with the family and review the geriatric assessment and care plan they created for the client. Last, this 1-1 care manager meeting introduces a concierge guide through the labyrinth of caregiving, showing exactly what homecare plus care management will do to solve the client’s problems, increase their quality of life and offer relief to the sometimes-desperate family members. Find out more by signing up for this free webinar.

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Merger of Homecare and Geriatric Care Management Makes You a Concierge Agency

April 11, 2023

The merger of homecare & care management gives you a concierge care manager who will serve& draw the top 10% of concierge clients

This merger of homecare and care management gives you the way to position your merged agency as the only home care agency that gives gold-standard exclusive  1-1 services to the top 5 % who demand this entitled level of care – who are the ” Rich and Famous” s (for example, President Reagan), Narcissistic Enrtitles Families ( Example President Trump)

Concierge Client-Teacher with defined pension

The merger of homecare & care management gives you marketing power to sign up the 90-55% 10% “Well Heeled Middle-Class Seniors: who are concierge clients in their retirement as they have defined pensions because they were in a union and never given a 401K. These surprising concierge clients are usually not demanding – they lived frugal work lives without riches, shopped at Payless or grocery outlets- but can afford you now in their generous retirement. They are represented by teachers, nurses, bus drivers, subway drivers, etc.

The lower 90% only call when there is a crisis, and that crisis often leads to home care. Homecare costs between 4000-6000 a month. This is why you need to serve that top 10%. The upper 10% can afford that, according to Pew research, in this nation of broad income disparity, and 90% below cannot.

Demand and not need determine the success of a Homecare or geriatric care manager business. This fundamental fact of life must be taken into consideration when developing a business plan for for-profit, fee-based home care and geriatric care management businesses.

 

Who Can Really Afford Homecare and Care Management?

merger of homecare and care managemeny

The target market for the merger of homecare and care management combined will not serve not the 65 million families who need homecare or management services but the much smaller subset of those families who can afford to hire a geriatric care manager and private duty home care agency or are willing and able to pay for the services that GCMs who can actually find their way to you.

 This subset really represents the top 10% of the economic spectrum and, more precisely, among the rich and famous, the top 1% who actually held onto its share of national wealth in the 2008 economic crisis and  gained quite a bit with Trump’s tax cut in 2019 

Adding geriatric care management with concierge customer services  transforms your  Home Care Agency into a more profitable service.

Why- a geriatric care manager is a powerful health care concierge, just like concierge medical services.

Combing these two services is a highly effective selling point to potential concierge clients who are in the top 10% income brackets.

These clients can afford long-term care geriatric care management and the most costly long-term expense, private duty home care.

 A geriatric care manager is a highly skilled geriatric health care professional who acts as a personal GPS to the concierge aging  family, making your homecare agency more attractive to wealthy clients

GCMs and ALCA members offer home care ultra-personalized aging parent care which Concierge Clients demand.

You build a deep relationship with the client and family by adding a geriatric care manager who creates this

Adding Geriatric Care Management Gives you A GPS through the Journey of Aging

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The care manager who practices as a GPS through elder care helps your concierge clients home care clients step by step through one of the hardest journeys of their life.

A geriatric care manager’s highly personalized service meets all the needs of the concierge’s aging family and the client.

GCMs are like a concierge at a 5-star hotel.  They serve the entitled clients and their family caregivers by solving their health and psychosocial problems as they age, arranging paid care through your agency, and finding many other ways to relieve the caregiving stress problems of their adult children while making elder care more seamless.

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The first and most important reason to merge care management &homecare is money. You will be able to capture billable hours that you are now giving away for free. The second reason to add care management to home care is market positioning. Clients will choose your agency if you offer this merger of 2 services key senior services and competitors do not. A third reason is a care manager is a perfect person to introduce home care to the family caregivers. Care Managers sit down with the family and go over the geriatric assessment and care plan they created for the client. Last, this 1-1 care manager meeting introduces a concierge guide through the labyrinth of caregiving, showing exactly what homecare plus care management will do to solve the client’s problems, increase their quality of life and offer relief to the sometimes-desperate family members. Find out more by signing up for this free webinar

 

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Make Reminiscence a Valentines Gift for Aging Clients- 5 Ways

February 9, 2023

Make Reminiscence a Valentine’s Gift

Make reminiscence Valentine’s gift for clients.  A great Valentine’s for your client is you the care manager or a caregiver, using reminiscence to gather a client’s memories.

Reminiscence isn’t new. Before the printing press, storytellers and bards were how history was recorded-

You can watch The History Channel to get a history of the world. But History also exists in a family, and you can make your elder family members oral storytellers on Valentine’s Day.

Storytelling only works if the teller remembers the lines. Family history has to be captured when the older person still remembers. So holiday events are a perfect time to tap into that font before it flickers.

Here are some tips to use if you want to capture these family tales during Valentine’s visits with older clients—a perfect time to do this.

1. First, arrive with a real Valentine’s card Just a card that can evoke old memories

2. Reminiscence is Valentine’s gift when you use empathetic listening Make all the messages you give the older person— tone, how fast you speak, how they are sitting- say, “I want to listen to you.” This in itself is a gift to an older person as few people really listen to them as they age.

Reminiscence is Valentine’s gift

3. Reminiscence is Valentine’s gift when you ask questions that prompt the story but don’t make judgments. If there are going to record the family tale,  on your I phone, record it in a way that doesn’t distract or stop the older person from talking.

Reminiscence is Valentine’s gift

4. Reminiscence is the perfect Valentine’s gift when viewing old family photos as memory prompts.

5. Start somewhere. If the elder isn’t going to tell stories on his or her own, start the story and see if they will follow along.” Did you go to Valentine’s parties as when you were a kid or celebrate the day in school by exchanging valentines?” Did you have a special valentine as a teenager or young adult?”

6. If the client has dementia you can still do this with reminiscence prompts like a valentine, chocolate, some flowers, old photos, or a simple valentine decoration you bring.

7. Or contact the family, if they will visit or call, and teach them how to do reminiscence and do this each holiday they may spend with the older loved one.

 

8. Use technology tools to help you with this legacy building for your older client like Life Bio-    or

Quick Voice Recorder

to catch the memory on your phone.

Story Worth

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