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Are You Skating Away From the Holiday on Ice Like Joni Mitchel?

December 18, 2017

 

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It’s coming on Christmas
They’re cutting down trees
They’re putting up reindeer
And singing songs of joy and peace
Oh I wish I had a river I could skate away on

As Joni Mitchel told us on her melancholy 1971 masterwork, “Blue”  Celebrations with family on the holidays can often want you to take the ice and skate away from

 

Spending time with dysfunctional families often causes lots of seasonal lubrication – “A Holiday on Ice”  as David Sedaris. What is the third sign that you are skating on the slippery slope as a geriatric care manager -Cut off

Distancing & cut off- are pulling away and having nothing to do with family or an individual in your family.

You find adult children who have not spoken to parents or siblings for years.

The celebrity feud and cut off between actress Angela Jolie and her Dad actor John Voigt is a well-publicized example

What prompted Jolie’s reconciliation – helping grandchildren- Jolie-  reconciled with her Dad because her children’s need for a grandparent and the knowledge that your children just have a very different version of a relationship with your parents than you do.

When you assess the aging family as a professional you look at several signs of dysfunction. Contentiousness and anger are two other signs- the ripping pattern of divorce, remarriage, or other disruptions in relationships that shred the balance within the family system- both hacked by anger and contentiousness.

Gathering all these angry, contentious, cut off, divorced, ex-spouses, stepchildren, left behind blood children, deadbeat Dad’s and pour on alcohol and hold the mistletoe -you have the wrathful explosion that is that is dysfunctional family skating the holiday on ice.

Find out more about in Emily Salz and Lynn Hackstaff’s chapter Family Conflicts, Dependence and Mutuality: Care Management and the Dysfunctional Family. Handbook of Geriatric Care Management 4th edition.Jones and Bartlet.

When they call you be prepared, be ready, be a little fearful. Here are some tips.

 

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