Are you are a Gen X or Y parent expecting a baby? Want to avoid sibling rivalry with your other kids who feel wretchedly neglected?
One answer- do parental sibling marketing to each of your other children to blunt the jealousy of the new arrival.
Work hard to sell self-worth to older siblings before and after the birth. Encourage harmony among all the siblings, who are no longer that special baby and probably feel family nest is way too crowded.
Pay attention to the role the baby has taken in your family.
2012 parents Kaila and Taylor were consumed with their newborn on top of earning enough cash to pay the bills in this rotten economy. The overwhelmed parents had little time to make for their other two kids.
In fact teen Lucy felt like she was the least favorite child now that her parents ended her piano lessons due to the tight family budget. Having new baby Ella arrive as the star of the family, made Lucy and eight year old Jack feel like Neptune and Pluto compared to the shining Venus of Ella.
One critical parental step was needed – involve father’s more. Dad Taylor took that step by making more bottles, changing diapers and doing late night feedings for his new daughter. He attended all of Jack’s baseball games, exhausted and bleary, but always there as a cheering Dad.
His paternal involvement allowed Mom Kaila to spend more time with Lucy, who was careworn after she had to give up music lessons plus her Mom’s attention. Kaila found cheaper activities by calling her daughter’s guidance counselor for help. Lucy had shown an interest in working backstage at the high school theater, where her best girlfriend was the stage manager.
The high school counselor prompted Mom Kaila to ask Lucy to join the theater company and work backstage. Mom Kaila, who sewed, volunteered to help the seamstress make costumes for the theater group so that she and Lucy could interact more.
So with a new baby make sure you spread love evenly and show each sibling that he or she is special and important.
This parental marketing will pay off in big dividends in the here and now and future by preventing a sibling “I Hate You” story many years down the line where the “baby “ remains the least favorite sibling decades later