Forgiveness for adult children for alcoholic parents is fighting a lifetime of nightmares . As a result of my path is forgiving my alcoholic PTSD ridden Dad I wrote an entire chapter on Forgiveness in the Aging Family in my book, Care Manager Working with the Aging Family
My inspiration was again living with my aging Dad and only seeing him in the here and now and not as the drunk Dad of my childhood. The VA helped by providing the wide range of services in the GRECC program for him and I was helped my teaching filial maturity and realizing this was my own life challenge.
I also found my Dad saved me and my whole family. His entering our family in California moving from Atlantic City New Jersey made us a whole family with 4 generations and the great grandchildren, grandchildren and really me- adored him.
My daughter Jill said as we knelt before his dead body. “We thought we were saving him and he saved us.”