Not all is positive about siblings.One of the red flags for a sibling ” I hate You story” is something happened between you and your sibling that you did not want to happen. Sibling rape and molestation happens in families. I have been writing about and citing a project that pierces this taboo, Pandora’s Project.
If you are survivor of sibling abuse or a professional working with sibling abuse in any age group, I would suggest visiting their web site , friending them on their]and watching their latest video, below, which will help you understand the underbelly of siblings that has been with us, yet taboo to see, since families/ siblings- began.
I will be in New York on October 3rd to speak at Senior Source a geriatric care management component of Self Help , a renown 75 year old New York Based program dedicated to Holocaust survivors seeking refuge in America, with a distinguished 75 year history, dedicated to enabling the elderly and other at-risk populations to live in their own homes, independently and with dignity.
The Senior Source Salon will be held from 6 PM to 8 PM October 3rd .
I will speak about negotiating midlife sibling issues in both the “nearly normal ” and dysfunctional aging family. My presentation will cover the challenges of negotiating and mediating with estranged siblings regarding their parents or loved ones finances, assets, estates and guardianship.
The presentation will address sibling family dynamics in midlife and the steps siblings take to achieve forgiveness in a midlife family . These steps can create sibling family team to care for an elderly parent.
This talk will be based on my book Mom Loves You Best Forging and Forging Sibling Relationships, New Horizon Press,
To find out more about the event or sign up to attend go to Senior Source
A just released stuffy by the Pew Family Trust on Care, Pew Internet Project and supported by funding from the California HealthCare Foundation found a fact professional ‘s working with seniors already know – almost a third of us are family caregivers. That includes midlife siblings, and wives. The much anticipated study found the 30% of US adults are caregivers.
Plus the study confirmed another fact that caregivers and aging families know but is now substantiated. Technology and the Internet is a key tool that sibling and more often spouse caregivers use to render care to aging family members.
According to the Pew report caregivers are “ voracious health information consumers. They outpace other Internet users often by double-digit margins,
Family caregivers are use technology as a care-giving tool. Compared with their noncaregiving peers, family caregivers are more likely to
• have a cell phone or other mobile device, such as a smartphone (90% vs 82%);
• use the Internet or email (79% vs. 71%);
• have a desktop computer (64% vs. 58%);
• have a laptop computer (55% vs. 51%).
• According to the Pew Report:
Are you a family, sibling or spousal caregiver and use technology? Check out this report.
If you are a aging professional, this is important information on how to reach your potential clients.Professional geriatric care managers should check out Julia Menack’s Technology to Support Aging In Place in the third edition of Handbook of Geriatric Care Management 2011.
Yesterday, I saw Robot and Frank a film I gave thumbs up to in another blog. The story, with the brilliant actor Frank Langella as Frank, is about the supposed future, but is here right now.
What the family needed was a geriatric care manager to help Frank’s dysfunctional family understand his point of view by being threatened with a nursing home, (or as he sees it “ mental institution), because he has early Alzheimer’s. He’s a cat burglar who, as the movie opens, to his horror, just broke into his own house. What the adult siblings got instead of a geriatric care manager was a robot, who turned out to have a very human side to him, totally captured at the film’s end. I went with 2 other aging professionals and we laughed throughout the film but noticed the older folks in the dark cinema were not laughing, as this was their worst nightmare, dementia, their families, robots and being placed in a nursing home.
A geriatric care manager can help family with technology- not the robot of the film but technology that can be used to help seniors and those with special needs, (even ex cat burglars), live safely in their home. Technology has the potential to help older people to maximize their independence, support family caregivers’ needs, improve the quality of care and quality of life, reduce and limit the cost of health care, and increase efficiency of care.
For example, telehealth devices or residential monitoring systems can be used to monitor when the older person’s pattern differs from the routine, and send an alarm to a central monitoring location if either health conditions or movement patterns differ from a previously observed or programmed norm. In this way, a condition that is starting to emerge may be identified before it becomes serious enough to warrant an emergency room visit and the dreaded nursing home placement, as Frank and the other older people in the theater, so feared.
See Robot and Frank- it’s fabulous -plus call a geriatric care manager before what happens in the film to Frank and his family befalls your own aging parent and you.