It’s almost Thanksgiving, Christmas and Hanukkah. Do you have aging parent issues? If you suspect your holiday visit to aging relatives could have some scary scenes, here are some red flags to put in a checklist and share with your midlife siblings before the holiday call. If alarm bells go off it may be time to call a geriatric care manager and have a family meeting.
Perhaps older parents have piles of junk mail, stained dirty attire, unwrapped gifts when Mom used to shine through her color coordinated presents. All are cause for the 911 alarm- then action.
You can use this list to assess your parents or older family members during the holidays and compare notes on a post holiday conference call. If all midlife siblings have the same criteria, it makes easier to agree what to do and what to flag as family New Year’s resolutions.
Below is a list of red flags. If you see any red signals on Thanksgiving, Hanukkah or face them on Christmas- now is the time to do something about it. Use this is a checklist of some worrisome signs you may have seen.
Alarm Bells List for Visiting Long Distance Relatives During the Holidays
Clutter in a home that was once always neat
Memory loss, change in short-term memory
Poor grooming by a person who was once meticulous
Refusing to go with friends on outings or to religious services
refusing any suggestion or conversely agreeing to everything with-out consideration
Mood swings, getting angry qui
Refusing to go to medical providers
Cant take care of activities of daily living: cooking, bathing, dressing, housekeeping, etc.
Entering contests, credit card maxed out on shopping channels
When the midlife adult children return from the holidays, the family can have a family meeting alone or with an the aging professional and look at the problems on everyone’s the list, agree on the top red flags and start helping the long distance family.
As nearly 7 million Americans and innumerable midlife siblings are responsible for the care of an older family member live an average of 300 miles away, this is a great gift to midlife family members and their loved ones.
Don’t wait till you and your midlife siblings are shocked out of sleep by late-night calls from brothers and sisters, frantically telling them of a crisis with aging Mom or Dad. Don’t force yourself and the other adult children to book last minute, high-cost flights, and gather in scary, sterile hospital rooms with brothers and sisters they have not really communicated in years. If you do -siblings might stare starkly at each other, then have to face doctors and social workers that may ask the family to make excruciating decisions about Mom and Dad. Call a geriatric care manager and you will be really thankful this Th
If you watched my last you Tube, What is a GCM, here is a synopsis.
What is geriatric care management? It is simply steps taken by a geriatric care manger to solve older people’s problems. Who are geriatric care managers? They are social workers, nurses, human service professionals, fiduciaries, and gerontologists
Who does the GCM serve? They serves older people families of older people, adult children, long-distance care provides third parties who represent older people.
When does the GCM serve older people? They serve them when the older person or family is in crisis. is experiencing a serious problem., preventively and on demand when the quality of an older person’s life, needs to be increased, when players rendering service to the older person need to be managed and when adult children need assurance and a “Peace of mind .
How does GCM solve these problems? A GCM uses classic social work and nursing tools, including the steps of client assessment. , Care planning, service coordination. referral to community resources and monitoring.
What Makes a GCM different than the public sector case manager? , The GCM’s product is great service (like Nordstrom’s). They serve 2 groups at once, older people and their families, provide highly personalized service, and have much smaller caseloads than public case managers. They GCM have great flexibility to deliver services to elderly clients.
GCM’s are also available on a 24-hour basis, on weekends, on holiday’s 24/7 one to one services. They respond to client’s need at the convenience of the client.
The GCM crosses the line PAST public human services into the for profit service sector. You can review this is my You Tube video November 10, 2012.
In the next You Tube segment of my new channel will be How a GCM Does a Psychosocial Assessment. It will be up on November 13, tomorrow.