Young families today need to involve Dad’s more my daughter Kali and husband Dan have 14-month-old twin boys , born here in Redondo Beach (LA), Ca. . So I would like to dedicate this blog to Dad’s of twins and offer a few important things that Dad’s need to do to support twin siblings.
To say the least –if you are the father of twins, you need to give to extra support to your wife- much more than you do with the birth of a single baby. Raising twins is grueling all along the way to maybe ages two or three – 24/ 7 with two babies, two feedings, two diaperings huge loads of laundry and two exhausted parents. After three I suspect there are new overwhelming duties to divide.
Twins, turn your life upside down. If you are or your wife are type a -get ready to switch to type C or D. Twins hit your house like an earthquake.
Through tension and fog of bleary-eyed stress- there is a very good rule of thumb for Dad’s of twins. Both the Dad and Mom must show respect for each other, remember they love each other and work as a team.
My daughter and her husband Dan play tag team with their twins Dylan and Liam.
Kali works all-day and so does Dan. They have a nanny three days and family coverage on other days as the Murphy family lives nearby. My husband is also here for two months this summer and I come down every 10 days from Santa Cruz, Ca.
Both Dan and Kali care for the twins as soon as they get comes from work, because it takes a parent team to get dinner, play, bathe and get two babies to sleep. Dan reads them to sleep every night with Mark Twain’s Tom Sawyer. I love that.
Both Mom and Dad get up at night as needed. You need 4 arms to manage twins at this stage. Both Dan and Kali put those schedules together as a team and change them together as more or less family is available.
Now that’s just if you simply have twins. In spite of the tsunami that has hit your life, if you have new twins, plus other kids, you as a Dad have to offer the whole young family, a secure. nurturing environment.
It can test any relationship to the limit. So Dad’s need to keep romance alive and strengthen their relationship as a couple by keeping channels of communication open through all the stress. Children learn from this openness and gain respect for themselves and others by the way their parents interact. My husband and I are babysitting tonight so the parent’s can go to a much-needed party.
So involve Dad’s more especially new Dads of twin siblings and congratulations to my son in law Dan for being such a wonderful new Dad.