Break the Tradition
Coach Long Distance Care Providers to reduce their stress by sharing the care .Instead of having 10 family members or friends’s guests at their parent’s home for a holiday dinner ,hint they might try a different tradition. Suggest that someone else like a friend or another family member host Passover or Christmas dinner or get an invitation . Or all go out to a holiday dinner and take the care receiver there.
Use the web
The Internet is a fantastic way to shop for food and gifts before leaving home to visit your family member. Another way to shop from home is using catalogs (many people feel uncomfortable about putting credit card numbers out in cyberspace). If they would rather go out, make lists of specific gifts for each person. If they shop at their parents, get respite from family and friends to have time to themselves to shop and have a meal.
The motto “Everything in moderation” should be their guide through the holidays. There are many temptations abundant throughout the season—alcohol, sweets and rich food. Suggest they go ahead. Have some. Just counsel to not over-indulge.Hangovers and acid reflux makes the stress of traveling and caring so much harder.
Create Inner Calm with Exercise
Encourage them to try to keep up on your regular exercise routine, or start one, during the holidays. Walking five times a week is a great way to stay in shape. There is also something about pounding the pavement that helps release frustrations and clears your head. New apps like the I Phone’s Stepz It makes walking a fun way to see how you are taking care of yourself. If your looking out your window and the snow is flurrying and drifting, find an alternative. Even when they visit their family member, perhaps ,get a temporary membership and many health clubs have indoor tracks, yoga classes,. If that doesn’t appeal to them, yoga, walking, some calming exercise can be done during their visit.
Ideally caregivers should have a daily, weekly, monthly and yearly break.
Daily-Half an hour of yoga, meditation, needlepoint, reading, etc.
Weekly-A couple of hours spent away from the house at the mall, library, coffeehouse, etc.
Help Long Distance Care Providers get respite with great care sharing site like Lotsofhelpinghands
Do a Caregivers Assessment
Doing a caregiver assessment of the long distance caregiver before they leave for the holidays will allow you to help them even more to relieve their stress. Read Assessing and Supporting the Family Caregiver in Handbook of Geriatric Care Management, 4th edition.
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