Stoke up the barbie, invite the family.
Adult children usually see their elderly parents on Christmas, Hanukkah, Easter, Thanksgiving- all the major holidays.
But on Labor Day -coming up in a few days- and other minor holidays, families gather and may notice their aging parents’ struggle with memory, speech – Midlife siblings may flip out with any behaviours anything that threatens their own independence.
Then the discussion will turn to aging parents.Labor day usually involves alcohol. With a normal family, discussing this when alcohol is involved is probably fine . But in a Aging Dysfunctional family this would be the time to set up a family meeting on a teleconference or Skype when everyone is sober. You could just ask everyone if would gather ideas and you can discuss at that time.
With elderly parents decline- everyone’s independence is threatened and anger and frustration can be rampant.
If adult siblings made a midlife sibling summer visit to elderly parents before Labor Day, it could have been bitter or sweet or it just plain scary. This is why it best to set up a meeting with all the siblings to discuss care not when people are drinking more than they should on Labor Day.
Adult children may decide they must intercede or offer direct help, even if it is rejected . Then family members who do not live nearby become long distance care providers, joining 7 million others in the US.
The frightening part often happens when you haven’t seen an aging Mom or Dad for a while. If midlife siblings live long distance, making an occasional visit can set off alarms, especially if they find aging Mom or Dad has gone downhill . Then a geriatric or aging life care manager is just the perfect answer. Let them figure this out with your geriatric care manager Sherlock Holmes guidance and clues to find your value.
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