Adult children usually see their elderly parents on Christmas, Hanukkah, Easter, Thanksgiving- all the major holidays.
So on Thanksgiving -coming up in a few days-, families gather and may notice their aging parents’ struggle with memory, speech – Midlife siblings may flip out with any behaviors anything that threatens their own independence.
Then the discussion will turn to aging parents. Thanksgiving usually involves alcohol. With a normal family, discussing this when alcohol is involved may or may not be a good idea. In an aging long-distance family, this would be the time to set up a family meeting on a teleconference or Skype when everyone is sober. You could just ask everyone if would gather ideas and you can discuss it at that time.
With elderly parents decline- everyone’s independence is threatened and anger and frustration can be rampant.
If adult siblings did not make a visit to elderly parents before Thanksgiving, it could have been bitter or sweet or it just plain scary. This is why it best to set up a post thanksgiving meeting with all the siblings to discuss care, not when people are drinking more than they should on Thanksgiving.
Adult children may decide they must intercede or offer direct help, even if it is rejected . Then family members who do not live nearby become long-distance care providers, joining 7 million others in the US.
Offer to Facilitate a Telephonic Family Meeting After Thanksgiving
The frightening part often happens when you haven’t seen an aging Mom or Dad for a while. If midlife siblings live long distance, making an occasional visit can set off alarms, especially if they find aging Mom or Dad have gone downhill. If they call you ,offer to facilitate the call using your family meeting facilitation skills, to create an agenda with the family and keep everyone on the topic of parent care in the here and now, rather than fracturing into an argument about the past or old family wounds. With a care manager as a facilitator, they will find your value.
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