Did your blended family mix like oil and water over the mother’s day? Did the steps and the halves then skip father’s day? Do your blood children have a strained relationship with your stepchildren? Do your half siblings hate their whole siblings? Had the whole family blown up on the 4th of July? How about a step, half blood family meeting
If your bloods halves and steps
in an endless war why the sibling mess?
If you are Generation X and your parents were divorced- you might point your finger at your baby boomer parents – how they approached marriage and family relationships. These changes were a domino effect cascading down on Generation X and Generation Y, leaving them leery of commitment and endless angry with siblings
If you are Generation X or Y kid who grew up with divorce- did you yourself get divorced?
If (bloods, steps and half’s) are heading down the road to writing their own sibling “I Hate You” story, make a summer resolution when the world seems to open.
If you are Gen X write a paragraph or two about the generational changes that occurred in your own family (like divorce or remarriage) that might have contributed to the strife between your own children -leading to sibling “I Hate You” stories.
If you are a baby boomer grandmother or grandfather watching your children grandchildren reel from divorce-, write a paragraph about how the generational values, both positive and negative, how they had an impact on your children and grandchildren and perhaps how you would like to change them.
A sibling family meeting can be organized by one of the siblings who seeks harmony instead of the sound of chalk on the blackboard. The steps you take can make steps, bloods and halves begin to reconcile so that Memorial Day, you might have everyone attend the event with a bit more harmony.
Consider unraveling your sibling tale with a sibling family meeting and make forgiveness part of the solution. .
Has sibling rivalry among your kids – made your summer hotter—answer- involve extended family? It does take a village.
Especially in summer, when kids are out of school, if Mom’s and Dad’s reach out to nearby family, parents can downgrade present and even future sibling rivalry and strife. This can be an investment in helping your kids avoid midlife brother and sister “ I Hate You” stories
Family, like aunts, uncles, grandparents, great-grandparents-or any blood or non-blood relative or close friends -can help you bear the heavy load of parenting. Especially engaging the support of older family members like grandparents (who today can be pretty vital sixty-year-olds) can be a great hand up with this heavy lift.
Extended family can help with one sibling while Mom or Dad pay special attention to another child. Family can pitch in by having one sibling spend a summer vacation week at their home, take them to special places, go camping with them. It does not have to be expensive –just one to one. If another sibling could go to a grandparent’s or another extended family member’s home that same week, this will go the distance for making siblings each feel special and reduce competition.
This extended family involvement will allow you share the burden of child rearing and pay equal attention to kids. In today’s’ strapped economy and single parent environment, this is a great bank to borrow from – thus reducing the added deficit of sibling rivalry.
Check out my latest You Tube on my Mom Loves You Best Channel- “How to have a sibling family meeting with young kids.” As a mother , dad grandmother or grandpa or even great grandparent= this can help you. After all isn’t summer when kids visit their grandparents . Learn how any family member can have a family meeting with children, solve disputes, decide as a team where to go on a day or just have fun building a sibling team.