Find out more in Emily Salz and and Lynn Hackstaff’s chapter Family Conflicts, Dependence and Mutuality : Care Management and the Dysfunctional Family. Handbook of Geriatric Care Management 4th edition.Jones and Bartlett
Spending time with dysfunctional families often causes lots of seasonal lubrication – “A Holiday on Ice” as David Sedaris. What is he third sign that you are skating on the slippery slope as a geriatric care manager -Cut off
Distancing & cut off- are pulling away and having nothing to do with family or an individual in your family.
You find adult children who have not spoken to parents or siblings for years.
The celebrity feud and cut off between actress Angela Jolie and her Dad actor John Voigt is a well-publicized example
What prompted Jolie’s reconciliation – helping grandchildren- Jolie- reconciled with her Dad because her children’s need for a grandparent and the knowledge that your children just have a very different version of a relationship with your parents than you do.
When you assess the aging family as a professional you look at several signs for dysfunction. Contentiousness and anger are two other signs- the ripping pattern of divorce, remarriage, or other disruptions in relationships that shred the balance within the family system- both hacked by anger and contentiousness.
Gathering all these angry, contentious ,cut off, divorced, ex-spouses, step- children,left behind blood children , deadbeat Dad’s and pour on alcohol and hold the mistletoe -you have the wrathful explosion that is that is dysfunctional family skating the holiday on ice.
When they call you be prepared, be ready, be a little fearful. Here are some tips.